I idle in a netplay IRC channel and arrange games with other enthusiasts when I'm bored.
The last time I made a friend to play games with was when I posted my PSN in some /v/ thread and of the 15+ people I added one guy and I would play fighting games together. I was like 14 then, I turn 22 this year. The only multiplayer games I really play nowadays is Monster Hunter World and Apex Legends.
should we make a bunker/games/ Matrix/Element server?
You aren't missing out on much.
Missing out on much?
There must be something worthwhile to do with other people… but I have tried a few games on gameranger.
OP is mostly about games that are good for socializing, like MMOs or matchmaking, but finding about what genre and games are good for it.
Then go ahead and try it, I have based my opinion over experiences in a very large timeframe. Most of it just very shallow, you are much better off actually going outside and doing something with people.