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 No.14692

With the pandemic ending soon what are some tips and tricks for making IRL friends, all my friends are online ones. I would be nice just to hang out with some people in IRL.

 No.14693

What's wrong with having online friends? Think about how the internet made it easy to find those friends that share your interests and now think about how hard it is to find similar ones without it.

 No.14694

>>14693
Nothing, I just more than that though.

 No.14695

>>14692
The best thing to find friends is over some shared interest
I dont know what your /hobbies/ are but in every town there are clubs and other groups were people meet

 No.14696

>>14695
just out of curiosity where would you find such a thing? all of the clubs in my city seem to be for children, and facebook groups are fucking useless

 No.14697

>>14696
closest thing that i found was a group of people that walked 60 miles in a day every sunday, and a group of people that rode bikes every night at 11pm. and nigga i don't have a bike and i ain't waking up at 4am just to walk, get a life.
i'm genuinely opened to be proven wrong, but to me it seems that this sort of activity exists only in places with a lot of people, like more that 5 million people in a city and where the work day is 40 hours. if either of those is not fufilled you are not likely to get enough people to reunite, because there is just nobody available as everyone is fucking working, and there is not enough people

 No.14698

>>14692
If you have any hobby at all, just put yourself out there where people gather to partake. I play fighting games so I used to go to locals, and there were always some people that were somewhat socially inept. But it was fine, everyone would treat them nicely and some of them were vicious at the games.

Body language is very hard to describe, what is learned through experience probably can't be transmitted through text. Just get out there, let people have their personal space, and if you're having a good time, don't be afraid to show it.

 No.14699

>>14697
Thats probably country specific but where I'm from clubs are everywhere even in small villages for example gun clubs, sport clubs, martial arts clubs, chess clubs, music clubs our local magic store even had a group meeting every Friday evening to trade and play

 No.14702

I've been doing yoga in my room for the last couple months. Looking forward to getting vacced and meeting some cute girls who I can grow my spiritual practice with/fuck.

 No.14703

>>14692
>With the pandemic ending soon
>mfw 3rd wave about to start in Krautistan and we are back to near complete Lockdown

 No.14704

>>14698
Seconding this, I'm a tabletop gamer and I have had the majority of fun and friendmaking that way these days.

 No.14705

Where does one find the listing of these "groups"?
On F*cebook?

 No.14797

>>14705
Yes or if your town has some sort of organization, they may be able to help you.
Those are places to hang out with normies, what do you expect? There is nothing wrong in having social interaction but don't expect to be contacted by a pgp encrypt email.

 No.14814

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Whatever situation you're in, my advice for social interactions is to be genuinely interested in people. I'm kind of gregarious, I like to talk to people. Fortunately for me, people like to talk about themselves. You don't have to actually do much talking if you're not good at it, you ask open-ended questions instead. Don't be pushy. But who/what/when/where/how/why questions, like about someone's interests or hobbies or passions, can lead to conversations where your partner walks away thinking "hey, I like that person, they were really nice." Because you're interested in them. Watch how Anthony Bourdain or Louis Theroux do it, or Joe Rogan. He's just a dude who likes people.

One of my neighbors is a Trump guy in 50s who drives a truck for a living, so I talk to him about trucking. I ask him questions. Another neighbor is a Native American guy with a passion for snowboarding and skiing. He goes on trips. He's strong.

Where do people find their strength and their courage? Maybe it's a career (although often it isn't), or a hobby like I said. Or maybe it's their daughter who they care deeply about and she's their whole world, and they're doing things that make them proud. What are those things?

I made another friend one time who was in the Bandidos – the biker gang. I look like the complete opposite of someone you'd think would get along with bikers, or outlaw bikers would want to have around them, but I didn't judge him. I talked to him about motorcycles, and once he trusted me and opened up (over several hours), I asked him a genuine question: what does it feel like blasting down a rural highway with 20 other guys riding feet away from each other? The answer is that it feels fucking amazing, and that's what he lives for. They have to disciplined and they're part of a team.

That's how I connected to a guy I met at a bar who welded for a living. He is in tightly-knit group of people who worked hard and they had to trust each other. He was strong too.

You can't plan this, it requires flexibility, fluidity, you can't plan this. You find the best means to an end which is to connect. I've found that very general advice to be simple but it opens up a whole world.

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 No.14816

>>14814
>Whatever situation you're in, my advice for social interactions is to be genuinely interested in people. I'm kind of gregarious, I like to talk to people. Fortunately for me, people like to talk about themselves. You don't have to actually do much talking if you're not good at it, you ask open-ended questions instead. Don't be pushy. But who/what/when/where/how/why questions, like about someone's interests or hobbies or passions, can lead to conversations where your partner walks away thinking "hey, I like that person, they were really nice." Because you're interested in them. Watch how Anthony Bourdain or Louis Theroux do it, or Joe Rogan. He's just a dude who likes people.
This, absolutely based advice. It's also a piece of advice I shared in the first Bürgerkrieg thread last year. This is completely true and it definitely works, just asking people questions about themselves and genuinely listening to them makes them think of you as a friend. Especially if they can talk to you about things they can't really share with others. Everyone's got a few secrets that they need to vent about.

 No.14817

>>14816
Thanks, and like I said, I find it works for me. And people know if you're faking them out. Like the Trump neighbor who drives a truck, I'm a fucking communist, what am I supposed to talk to him about? Trucking! Of course, it's so obvious. Like, fuck Trump, whatever, I'm not interested in that. That's boring. The only reason I know he likes Trump is because he has a bumper sticker on his truck. But I don't talk to him about that. Never mentioned it. I talk to him about trucking because trucking rules, because of course it does, and this guy knows all about it, and he has all kinds of stories. He's a really nice guy and plowed through the Texas ice storm while trucking over the road a few weeks ago. That's pretty exciting. How did he manage that? Him: "Oh it's a piece of cake!"

 No.14818

How do you even make friends if you're an on and off depressed schizo who has severe existential crises every year with purely esoteric interests who has historically never had any friends

people say I'm really funny in spite of being quiet but because of abuse and neglect I suffered as a child on top of being somewhat schizo and too uh, "big brained" (not saying that I'm smart, just that I think way, way too much to be healthy) has made it incredibly difficult for me to connect with people and at 25 years old I'm literally just falling apart. I can't do it anymore. I went through a long depression as a teenager and emerged incredibly lost and lonely and the emotional pain and damage I incurred during my turbulent adolescence has made it incredibly difficult to really put effort into finding people, and even when I do find someone I like I instinctively push them away because I know sooner or later they're going to find thar I'm just a deeply, deeply broken and sad person in need of more help and love than anyone could ever possibly provide

I have less and less connections each year and I'm scared that once my immediate family leaves I'm going to completely fall to pieces

someone please help me

 No.14819

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>>14818
You're not alone here by any means, and I believe people are tough and have inner courage. I also think this general culture online of being really aggressive towards each other is played out, but the format of what we can do here is limited, what we can talk about on a public forum, and what we can't. I think it'd be a good thing to just connect and chat about whatever is on your mind, such as the esoteric interests you have or philosophies (I certainly have some myself), or just threads here on leftypol that you like or find interesting. Honestly, this place is kind of funny and there is a lot of entertaining stuff that happens, and there are a lot of ways to bounce off what's happening or what people are talking about. I try not to take it too seriously. We could maybe hop on Signal or Discord and connect that way and literally chat one-to-one over a microphone and just read leftypol together if you want. I think it'd be fun. I promise I'm not a spy.

No pressure though. My email address is [email protected]

 No.14878

>>14818
same here this probably wont be much help but i find having a pet helps keep mind off those thoughts best of luck

 No.14879

>>14818
>not saying that I'm smart, just that I think way, way too much to be healthy
That's called ADHD.

 No.14880

>>14879
>I may have ADHD too
holy shit

 No.14881

>>14880
Well it might just be good ol' anxiety too and that's more easily fixable than ADHD.

 No.14882

>>14881
It's not just that, I get easily distracted too. I guess I could also say I'm a bit impulsive. This makes me fail at school constantly.

 No.14940

>>14692
Tell me when you find out
I hate the little customs you have to do to make friends

 No.15004

>>14814
Excellent advice, second it wholeheartedly. There's no special scheme or plan you need, you just need to learn how to relax, be interested, and not take it personally when other people arent interested.

Anybody who treats socialization like some science to be perfected is a sociopath or a wannabe sociopath anyway. It aint that deep

 No.15035

>>14814
How did you get into these social situations in the first place?


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