So I've been dating a girl I met on Tinder for a few weeks. We started doing typical couple's stuff like holding hands, hugging, doing fun stuff like going shopping, to the beach etc. She said that she had never felt like this before and that she wanted to have a serious relationship and I played along.
Today I told her that I don't actually like her and I was with her because I didn't want to be lonely. She was devastated and I felt like shit because I saw she was so happy to see me. I even kissed her forehead in some of our dates, hugged and caressed her and I don't even know why. I feel horrible because she doesn't deserve this, she's so sweet and friendly but I don't really feel the same as her. It's honestly one of the worst things I've done to someone in my life.
>>687926It's paradoxical how society goes into panic mode over "youth culture" but "adult culture" has actual dangers.
Violent video games are nowhere near as toxic as ballsports or shooting ranges
Anime cosplay isn't as dangerous as war reenactments
Weed isn't as bad as booze
>>687940She hasn't had a boyfriend in 10 years, and she's only had one, and he left her for the same reason
>>687909But their bodies can be very feminine and sexy, she however was completely flat and had no ass, and I feel bas talking about it this way but I don't know other way lol
>>687956describe her physique to me
her hair, her face etc
>>687937>I've done this many times; you were right to break up, but telling her why is evil. Just be like "I was having a manic episode," or "I did shrooms and realized I am gay."This OP. You did a good thing not stringing her along any more, but sometimes a little white lie is in everyone's best interests.
>>687876>imagine organizing a date, not showing up because you got into a really long dominions 6 match, and then telling her that you aren't really interested in relationships and that you resent that she hasn't fucked you after weeks of dating even though you are pretty sure she is fucking her "gay" friend when she asks for an explanationSpoken from experience? That sucks anon.
>>687966ok
did you have sex with her?
>>687969moron! you should have fucked at least once
Maybe she is a beast in the sheets
>Today I told her that I don't actually like her and I was with her because I didn't want to be lonely.
Next time, don't tell her the explicit truth, be vague, say you feel like it couldn't work because you are confused about your feelings and that you don't feel like being into a serious relationship right now. Something like this. This is what most women do and it's easier to take the rejection when the breakup is verbalized that way, even if both parties ultimately know it's bullshit.
You can also say you think both of you are incompatible, but you need to come up with a good excuse for that to work.
Anyway, at least you had the courage to break up, instead of staying in a relationship you wouldn't have enjoyed, which would have made both of you miserable in the long run.
Next time, try to be more careful with words. Instead of "I don't like you, I just wanted to not be lonely", say "I don't feel a strong connection with you, and it's not your fault, it's just me".
>>688098>Ugly wife is a treasure Of course men would say that until their kids turn out ugly.
Especially if they have sons who turn out ugly.
Then those boys may end up as chuds.
You cannot have it both ways
If you want to "guard your women", you risk depriving your fellow males
>>687996I see, you kinda cornered yourself there, but dating is emotionally intense, so it's understandable to flip-flop when it comes to assessing your own feelings very early in a relationship IMHO.
Next time, try to say something more among the lines of "sorry, I said I thought we were compatible and could have a future together, but after second thoughts, I'm not really sure about it, and I think I want some time for myself"
just like a woman would say.Though in this case, I imagine the person who got rejected in the affair wants to know more and ask more questions in a pressing manner, just like a man who got rejected, and that's where the tricky part starts, women are often damn good at asking relevant questions when it comes to such matters, "why are you rejecting me? did you see someone else? if you didn't then why? what's the matter? am i not good enough for you?", these are the bog-standard ones but in real life they spit them like a Memphis rapper then your head spins from the thought of actualizing the break up IRL at this very moment.
It's okay, next time you will make up for it.
PS: Having sex with a date unironically increase your attraction to her, even if she has a flat chest and ass, it's programmed in your brain to release a ton of oxytocin and dopamine once you do it,
>>687974 and
>>688081 are right.
>>688221It's overrated, it does happen, but that's kinda a signal telling you not to put your dick everywhere and cum in all places.
It's probably change with culture and mores, especially if you are an orgasm addict fapping a lot from a puritan country.
Sometimes it's okay to please a woman who isn't the most beautiful out there, the best in class so to speak. But yeah, there is a part where you realize what you have done, what your libido wanted to achieve that seems ridiculous after cumming indeed. Heh, welcome to horny adulting.
>>688904im pretty sure the people who have it are just
reallly sexually repressed puritan types, even when they can put their shame out of their mind long enough to have sex it just comes right back afterwards.
>>688904I've regretted nutting inside old married men.
>>688451>>688638The reason is because romantic love is obsessed with perfection and permance.
Love is intolerant of change.
E er notice how people always talk about their lovers in past tense?
>He used to do this, she uswd to do thatPeople always compare their partners to previous ones.
People always base their romantic preferences based on pop-cultural impressions.
It doesn't take much for a person to fall out of love.
Even if you're hygienic, discrete, financially autonomous, the other party will reject you for not looking old enough, not having an aesthetic voice, not liking the same certain entertainment genres, etc.
I notice that in love, people will still chase after the same person that has rejected them and ruined their lives
Lust is more realistic. It's honest and appreciates the moment. While lust does have affinity to wanna repeat the same vibes, it's flexible.
In lust, all the flaws/nuances of the other party become cute and peculiar.
>>688942>I've regretted nutting inside old married men.I've said many negative things about Newgene over the years, how his teachings are corrupting millenno-zoomers, that he was afraid to live life intensely, but I have to face the situation upfront: All this time, Newgene was pounding the asses of married men, and he had to hide it from the wives, he was a secret lover all along.
I apologize. Profusely. This is a serious grindset I couldn't sustain even if I wanted to.
>>688962Im no secret lover.
It's just that all the good looking folk are out of reach.
Also "afraid to live life intensely"?
Most of that is cheap thrills that only work out for a lucky few.
Also how the hell am I corrupting "millenio zoomers"?
If anything most of the posts on here are whiny entitlement about sex and relationships
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