/lgbt/ - LGBT

Being into femboys doesn‘t make a man gay or bisexual. This may sound like a cope to avoid admitting to being either, but think about it.

Men who are into femboys are usually men who are also into women. And what they are into in femboys is a heteronormative presentation of femininity. Such men are usually not into men who look like men. One could then argue this is a preference, but a preference would mean that they are still into men but merely prefer this type of man. This isn‘t the case for men who into femboys though. Of all the people who are male they aren‘t turned on by any of them except femboys. So it‘s not a preference, it‘s exclusivity. Finally, men who are into femboys are generally not interested in sucking dick or being fucked in the ass.

We either conclude that 1) this is bisexuality but a very, very limited form of it with peculiarities that make it distinct from ordinary bisexuals who are attracted to average men, or 2) it is heterosexuality, but a redefined version whose basis isn‘t biology but certain signifiers and presentation, or 3) these men are standard heterosexuals but given enough female elements the gullible human brain mistakes it for a woman and lights up the horny center of the male brain. Evolution did not foresee cute, horny femboys and therefore didn‘t exclude it as a pointless mating option.

Looking online, it might seem that way. But maybe it's just a couple percent of mentally ill sadists who scream louder than everyone else? As I recall from school (I've been NEET for a long time now and don't have any relevant personal experience), only 30% of students were bullies; the rest either did nothing or indulged them, but without much motivation.

I put "allies" in quotation marks because "ally" can range from someone who actually empathizes with us, to those whose sympathy rests on being in one political camp instead of the other and who, in fact, makes the situation worse, in ways that should be obvious to them (IE Agent Kochinski, QueerKidsStuff, the blyat that made the genderbreadman/GenderUnicorn that was everywhere when I was in middle school)

As much as it is more or less trve, stop saying "Trans women have female brains w/ male bodies" or anything of the sort.

It is far more accurate to specify that we have qualitatively female brains whereas our brains are more androgynous or like neither sex on a quantitative level; the former is less dependent on receiving HRT as well.
To do otherwise is extremely misleading, and will turn people off from the movement.

>Studies showing that trans women show the same patterns as cis women, at least compared to trans men/cis men respectively (IE Trans women score higher on ECS compared to trans men, with overall difference compared to cis counterparts better explained by neurodivergence or environment)
Nobili, A., Glazebrook, C., Bouman, W.P. et al. Autistic Traits in Treatment-Seeking Transgender Adults. J Autism Dev Disord 48, 3984–3994 (2018). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10803-018-3557-2
Spies, M et al. “Gender transition affects neural correlates of empathy: A resting state functional connectivity study with ultra high-field 7T MR imaging.” NeuroImage vol. 138 (2016): 257-265. doi:10.1016/j.neuroimage.2016.05.060
Soleman, Remi S et al. “Sex differences in verbal fluency during adolescence: a functional magnetic resonance imaging study in gender dysphoric and control boys and girls.” The journal of sexual medicine vol. 10,8 (2013): 1969-77. doi:10.1111/jsm.12083

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Kevrekidis, P., Skapinakis, P., Damigos, D., & Mavreas, V. (2008). Adaptation of the Emotional Contagion Scale (ECS) and gender differences within the Greek cultural context. Annals of General Psychiatry, 7, Article 14. https://doi.org/10.1186/1744-859X-7-14
Shirayama Y, Matsumoto K, Hamatani S, Muneoka K, Okada A, Sato K. Associations among autistic traitsPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Ive always wished I was a girl, and I have been knowledgable that im most likely trans for awhile now. The problem is that I cant just "become" a girl.

Of course i know theres hrt, but that doesnt account for my brain. My brain still thinks of myself as a man. I still act like a man. Im still male socialized. How do I become a girl mentally?

repression general - "its over" edition

finally i can stop using 4chan now that this board exists

What are good careers for Canadian transhumanists with delayed sleep phase disorder? I need to make $$$ if I’m ever going to afford FFS.
>The body was too short or empty.

>want to learn makeup to fix my ugly masculine face
>have to research and buy an overwhelming fuckton of different makeup products
>realize i have to do skincare and fix my acne before learning makeup
>have to go to dermatologist to get recommended a skincare routine
>says it might not even work for me and it will takes months to tell
>cant even do the skincare routine consistently because of how depressed i am
>mfw its been 4 days since i last used any skincare products

Ill never be able to fix my acne, ill never be able to learn makeup. My face will always be ugly gross and masculine. Ill never be able to be a pretty femboy.

I'm sorry I'm not a good aspiring faggotran im sorry I'm not a good retard
I'm sorry I dont have interests or fixations or hopes or aspirations
I'm sorry I sit around burning my wrists with ciggerettes and doomscrolling 4chan, rotting my brain cells
I'm sorry I don't try.
I'm sorry I hide so much from all these people that have dedicated themselves to keeping me alive
I'm sorry I'm not helping them back.
I promise I will
I promise I will get a job before I commit,
I promise I will impress all these fuckers and buy them pipes and fuck them in the ass if they want to
But i know ill never get better

for context: i'm a boymoder, i've been on diy for a while now with great results so far. voice is my biggest source of dysphoria but i'm doing what i can to work on it. i pass to strangers, my voice passes depending on how i'm feeling. i'm not out to anyone though.

whereever i go, i feel strange. i've never talked to anyone about anything trans related. i've just quietly observed how people treat me, treat eachother and how they talk behind eachothers backs. there isn't a single person i've meet that's been understanding and honest.

people are either ignorant / straight up hateful or they will lie about everything. every so-called "ally" only sexualizes and fetishizes trans people.

>the few trans people i've met only ever sexualize themselves
>women will treat me like a fag (and sexualize me)
>specifically young lib / LGB women expect me to somehow like that and will have no problem outing me in front of random strangers, talk about how my appearance has changed since they've first met me, ask me at my workplace wether or not i am trans (in front of literally everybody…)
>old people will do their best to pretend i'm normal and just not even acknowledge the fact i have giant boobs (which is honestly sometimes preferable to the young women i've mentioned before, except when they loudly scream SIR NOTSODEADNAME a trillion times and out me to everyone)
>young men honestly seem the most welcoming, they just treat me like a normal human being (i only ever want to have real social interactions with men for that very reason), but of course you'll notice their porn-induced brain damage pretty quick.

not even the people offering trans care have a single clue.
i got my blood drawn a while ago at a place a lot of diying transhumanists go to get their labs. i could literally hear the staff make fun of me in another room while i was waiting.

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Is there any way for me to be sure i support trans rights because its the correct thing to do and not just because i find transhumanisters cute.

This is really bugging me i dont want to be a creep or a hypocrite