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 No.2970[View All]

Perhaps it has become your goal to be more charismatic, uninhibited and sociable.

Let's have a thread where we ask questions and give advice to improve exactly that.
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 No.13201

>>13190
ideally it will make you feel good and look good which should help a lot with socializing and carrying through everyday life
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 No.13202

>>13155
improve yourself (and your situation + prospects) until you get pleassure. Fr though lift weights get dates, and that applies for self care and mental exercise too.

I only got loved when I started loving myself. And I'm an ugly fucker but it's really all about that base. Your 0 will become a ∞
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 No.13203

>>3239
that's a mindfuck, no go
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 No.13204

>>3239
Last time I did she turned out to be one of those facebook boomer schizos (except in her 20s) who believes corona is a hoax made up by some secret worldwide cabal who also is pushing progressive values onto children or some shit.
Sure, at first I could ignore it but then she started talking about that shit more and more often.
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 No.13205

>have crippling anxiety
>also be adhd-ridden extrovert
The universe is laughing at me.
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 No.13206

>>12428
yo email me at the email above, I can try to be a penpal friend, anon. I'm younger but I care about genuine friendships and I've many people far older then I that I hold dear, so don't think you're alone in your want for real friendship just yet in this world.
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 No.13207

>>13206
forgot to give my email. my bad.
[email protected]
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 No.13208

>>12955
You don't deserve your disorders or mental issues. No one does. Does a bad person that breaks his arm deserve it? It's subjective for one and two you're not awful.

I don't mean to compare you to Frankenstein but does a corpse of necrotic flesh made animate only have a capacity for evil? Even if you are a bad person of bad experiences and intentions, that doesn't guarantee that you'll do nigh good. Email me. I'm that penpal anon above. We can be friends if you want. If it makes you feel any better after I got diagnosed with ptsd I kind of just wallowed in it for a while, feeling at least secure and justified in my being that. I'm not saying I totally understand but that I sympathize in a way.

I'm kind of a impossibly shaped peg too, I don't fit in much. And unfortunately, I was too dead for a while and more people then you'd think too are dead inside. But until we are deceased, we can return from the nightmare to the waking.

I stopped having my nightmare for the first night in literally years. I accepted it as part of my life; and I didn't have it last night. I thought it was going to shackle me forever. But I woke up refreshed for the first time in a very long time. Sometimes a miracle happens, minus the religious connotation
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 No.13209

>>12962
Yo I thought we weren't going to be able to mosh until 2024, I accepted it, I want to go to shows too. I was bad with people, I got better, then covid happened and my interior mind got better while my social skills went down the crapper worst in a long time.
I don't really know when shows will come back but just know you ain't alone, so please vent all you want.
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 No.13210

>>12984
fuck your post hit too close to home on the night walks bit. I can feel my friends just fading like glass shards on the beach. I hate when you hang out with someone or you think of them and then a time later they die and it just makes me feel fucking empty and I cry too sometimes on my night walks. I cry other times too.

The only thing that's let me quell the pain is turning it into meaning and righteous fury for moral truth. I try to love the world more then the pain I feel inside doesn't love. I spend a lot of time alone too, and yeah, death has always marred me too. People just are and it feels so inconsequential compared to the weight of attrition.

I think that at any age, even if culturally it doesn't feel like it, friendship and adventure can bloom even if time moves on.

every single day since I was a kid I had been calling out to God (where if it were), "please let me go back to a day time forgot so I can try anew".

Also if you still need pic help;
use an image hosting service to upload your photos that are ok to upload. Partner had the exact issue. Used a thumb drive though
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 No.13235

I have made several friends over the years but I'm terrible at keeping in touch with them. Any help with that?

A bit before covid happened I tried contacting a very old friend but while we talked a lot I feel it kinda went nowhere and the guy already had his own life, but maybe that was my anxiety speaking. I don't know if I should bother contacting him again once the pandemic is over.
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 No.13283

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How can one train speaking when alone? I would like to get better at communicating and expressing myself, but I often keep stuttering, forgetting words, using wrong syntax, pronouncing weirdly, or just not knowing what to say in conversation. Any advice or "exercise program" for that?
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 No.13286

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>>12984
Thank you for sharing anon
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 No.13288

>>13235
I know the people on here are pretty asocial, but I do think it's true that social media helps to keep in contact with people with little effort. Get instagram and just regularly post photos and stories or like and comment the content of your friends. Additionally, you gotta realize that some friendships simply have their expiration dates. I've quit wondering what I've done wrong a long time ago when I realized sometimes people are not your match. Maybe it was like that from the start, maybe you or them changed.
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 No.13290

>>13288
>Get instagram and just regularly post photos and stories or like and comment the content of your friends.
Eugh, I'm allergic to social media. Thanks for the advice.
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 No.13291

>>13283
>speaking when alone
You sure it's not anxiety interfering with that? When alone I speak extremely well but when there's someone in front of me I turn into a blabbering retard.
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 No.13292

>>13283
Try reading books out loud.
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 No.13301

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Accept your fate
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 No.13302

>>13301
>no audio
What is this 4cucks?
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 No.13312

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>>13301
>you're orphaned by the teenage loves you never had
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 No.13314

>>19932
>Yall either gotta work out
Won't fix a shit personality
>hobbies and quirks
Nah you can't force these things, some people are just fated to be boring and alone. Just how it is.
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 No.13321

>>19936
nothing fucking appeals to me anymore. There's nothing to fucking do anyway because of covid. I haven't left my house except to go to work or the grocery store since March.
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 No.13324

>>19932
It's from a movie/book.

>>13314
You should work out anyway.
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 No.13326

>>13324
I always start and lose motivation after like 3 weeks.
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 No.13328

>>19932
>No one here is as old as that guy.
I'm in my 50s. So I beg to differ.
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 No.13346

This might be a question better asked to a therapist but how do I stop being insecure and unmotivated? I used to like drawing and reading and doing stuff in general but after some messy shit during my teenage years I've become a lazy fuck that does the bare minimum in his daily life.
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 No.13347

>>13346
There honestly can be numerous reasons for this. My go to would be depression when it comes to your motivation. Insecurity can come from not accepting yourself and fearing the judgement of others. It can also come from not regularly experiencing victories, which would make you feel confident and competent. By victories I don't mean anything big necessarily. It doesn't have to be. We all have things that we value and that make us feel proud. When I go for a 10km jog I feel like a strong attractive man. When I commit to doing my uni work on time for several consecutive days it makes me feel competent and in control of my life. Ergo, less insecurity, more pride and more power.
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 No.13350

>>19932
>I am in my early 20s
yeah that might as well be teenage love you faggot
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 No.13360

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>>19977
>Read some shit
pic related is my current pile, and I have plenty more in my backlog (that aren't history-related). Reading probably is the one thing that does still appeal to me.
>instrument
sure i guess, i don't have an ear for music though and I'd just humiliate myself
>walk and gym
I do walk, gyms suck and are a pain in the ass during covid so fuck that
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 No.13383

>>13360
Kinda based.
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 No.13391

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 No.13434

>>13360
>that pic
chapoid-addled brain detected.
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 No.13448

>>13434
At least i read things other than image board posts, faggot
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 No.13472

I feel like it should be way easier for both average looking men and women to find someone to have casual sex with without resorting to prostitution. A nigga be horny sometimes
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 No.13473

>realize now that I'm well over 30 that I was mildly attractive as a teenager but severe BDD fucked that up
>also ruined by being an autist who didn't care about how he looked so I dressed like shit and had a ridiculous haircut
>still a friendless kissless virgin, except wrinkly and past the point of no return
Welp, I wasted all the good years of my life
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 No.13474

>>13472
Trash like tinder is made exactly for that.
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 No.13475

>>13473
Just leave your routine and LIVE
You are fucking 30 dude. In the grand scheme of things you are still young. Work out, use retin A to get rid of wrinkles, if you are baling get a hair transplant. I'm tired of you NIG9ERS just pitying yourself in MY thread.
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 No.13477

>>13475
the use of slurs lets slip 3 things about those who use them:
1. unironic belief in "chan culture", spends far too much time pretending he was on 4chan in 2003.
2. underage, in body or mind (often goes with 1)
3. poor vocabulary, lack of creativity.
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 No.13487

>>13474
Yeah, but you have to be reasonably attractive. I'm /fit/ but my face is fucked up
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 No.13489

>>13487
>I'm /fit/ but my face is fucked up
If you're in the US or UK, just wear a mask.
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 No.13493

>>13475
>In the grand scheme of things you are still young
Eh, as you get older time passes increasingly faster.
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 No.13507

>>13493
Well if that‘s your attitude I guess you deserve your fate
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 No.14044

Don't think this counts as a "social skill" but this seems like the right place to ask: How do I improve my attention span? My attention span has always been shit but I feel like it's gotten way worse since quarantine started because I've just been switching through social media constantly, literally every day. Any tips on how to improve it?
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 No.14091

>>14044
I noticed this for myself a few years back. I had read zillions of short articles commenting on leftist theory and history, but my progress in actually checking off the tomes they were referencing (Capital, etc.) was shameful. I'm not going to pretend I'm perfect, but these three things helped:

1. Stop doing serious reading on anything with a web browser. The temptation to click into tabbed threads, porn, or wiki digressions is too strong. I highly recommend getting an eBook reader and appropriating free books from MIA and libgen (I hate Bezos too but Kindle is the best e-reader). Dead tree books are great too, but I typically reserve those for reference tomes, Capital and the like.
2. Stimulants. Caffeine helps a lot for serious reading. Most grocery stores have squeezable caffeine syrup bottles you can add to water for an instant fix.
3. Scheduling. Plan in advance when you'll do your reading, for example, "from 7:00 to 9:00 tonight I'm going to read Anti-Duhring. Works great until something forces you to break your schedule and you put down the book for months
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 No.14639

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>I noticed this for myself a few years back. I had read zillions of short articles commenting on leftist theory and history, but my progress in actually checking off the tomes they were referencing (Capital, etc.) was shameful. I'm not going to pretend I'm perfect, but these three things helped:

>1. Stop doing serious reading on anything with a web browser. The temptation to click into tabbed threads, porn, or wiki digressions is too strong. I highly recommend getting an eBook reader and appropriating free books from MIA and libgen (I hate Bezos too but Kindle is the best e-reader). Dead tree books are great too, but I typically reserve those for reference tomes, Capital and the like.

>2. Stimulants. Caffeine helps a lot for serious reading. Most grocery stores have squeezable caffeine syrup bottles you can add to water for an instant fix.
>3. Scheduling. Plan in advance when you'll do your reading, for example, "from 7:00 to 9:00 tonight I'm going to read Anti-Duhring. Works great until something forces you to break your schedule and you put down the book for months
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 No.14667

>>14639
Thank you for the advice soyjak
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 No.14668

>>14091
I pretty much do everything you said except I always have some cool tunes from the 80's 90's and now
Can't read without it
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 No.14685

>>11208
>Oh you painted them black? Are you some sort of goth girl? Or did your goldfish die and now you're depressed?"
Good one, com. anon. I'd fuck you on the first date, and I'ma guy not into other guys
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 No.14933

>>14685
I am blushing behind the screen, Anon.
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 No.15408

Anyone else feel like they never found their home? I think I‘ve made friends in the past years that have been great to me and understand me in ways previous people couldn‘t. I‘ve been unlucky to grow up with people around me that simply weren‘t a match for me, which became much clearer growing up. Even now though I don‘t feel at home. There is no group of friend I ever had that I fully felt understood by. I don‘t feel like one of the main people of a social circle either. Anyone else feel like that?

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