No.522395
I have come to the realization, I suck at everything
>Try my hand at cooking, always loved it and wanted to be in master chef from childhood
Can’t peel potatoes correctly, or fillet a fish without cutting a vein and getting the blood mixed in with the meat, and the dish I gave to my family gave them bowel problems, I will never be a Gordon Ramsay
>try to become a writer?
Get the block too many times, I couldn’t find something spectacular at home so I’d have a notebook with me wherever I go, but when I write down something interesting, it isn’t that it came to my mind, it’s that I overheard someone else say it, and when I look back at a page of what I accumulated at home it just feels bland, nobody could read it and not feel like it was made by a child, I scrap it and try again, to see the same results, I will never be a Tolkien or a Rowling or write the plot for a masterpiece movie
>what about poetry? If I manage it i could become an independent singer
My rhymes went so badly I had to resort to gpt3, let’s face it, I’m never becoming Joji or Viktor Tsoi, the music industry is pretty elitist anyway, not like there was any chance for me
>maybe something else, an Auto Mechanic?
Not a chance, the first time I tried to help in a garage, I never got the difference between a 4x4 tire and a summer tire, and they barely trusted me to work on their bike after i had almost cut my finger fixing the car, I will never work for Hyundai or at the formula 1
>driving?
To this day I still have no driver license, keep making mistakes at the test, so good luck finding out if I have a talent for swerving or controlling a car at max speed, I’m never gonna be Keiichi Tsuchiya
>Medicine?
Becoming a surgeon doesn’t sound so bad, surgeons are respected, turns out it’s also very restricted, they don’t let in any failure become a surgeon, you need a previous degree, And the guys at the hospital told me I need to have a diploma and have studied for years to be able to train, to put it simply, I will never be Patrick Soon Shiong or fucking doctor mike
>forget surgery, even if you did spend 10 years to become a surgeon, that job will be replaced by robots in 10 years anyway, by then you’ll be obsolete, maybe try learning languages, Chinese, French, Spanish and the likes?
Already struggling with English as an ESL, and I easily forget many words and verbs, will never be one of those interpreters you see at political meetings
>okay, maybe art? Yes, art! Become a digital artist, those people were too popular and loved in the 2000s, make your own unique style that gets hundreds of commissions
I draw stickmen and anything beyond that looks like crap, the only time I drew something decent it took 4 hours, I had to copy step by step the guideline in a tutorial, and it still looked uncanny, like those third rate deviant art images, had to give it as a gift because I hated looking at it, I am never becoming speedosausage
>animating?
Yeah, read the above
>Fuck it, if screenwriting or book writing isn’t my thing, perhaps acting will be easier?
I try on a few lines from a novel or a movie in front of the mirror, my acting goes about as much as you expect, the face expression couldn’t convince even me, it strikes me that even if I auditioned and managed to be accepted into acting, ‘I’ll probably be asked to become one of the extras in the background at best or be tasked with delivering coffee to the director, I will never be a Gosling or his stunt double
>farming?
I completely ruined a onion plant I’ve been taking care of, no idea why it rotted, I’ve been doing everything in the book, guess everything I touch is destined to be doomed, I will never be adam Henson
>what about the stock market? You should try it
Completely dunce at economics, can’t tell you what lower-risk and lower-return means without going back to investopedia, and a loss in the first stock I bought is enough to tell you I will never be a musk
>fashion?
Lmao, one look at fashion designing will make me understand I have no future there, I tried designing a shirt online, it looks like nothing you won’t find at a flea market. I will never be a Versace
>okay, video games, I like video games, if I like it means I’m good at it right?
a good look at speed runners and twitch streamers will show me there’s nothing they already didn’t do before me, I can’t do better speedruns, can’t do a game walkthrough as those are easily available online, can’t beat my friends in a game, can’t make hundreds from playing games in a stream, and I will most definitely never be able to make a game that has tons of fans, not when I can’t pick up a computer programme or animate, I’m just never going to be anything huge in video games, not an esport, not a developer, nothing.
>forget games, get into bodybuilding, become a professional athlete, boxing, wrestling, the Olympics, anything.
I’ve had months of iron pumping and still no gains, well no gains that will make you go wow, nothing that put me above anyone else at the gym without getting into roids, I got a lot of back pain, and when I got into the boxing ring, I got floor whipped by a man shorter than me, I will never be john xina or the rock
>forget fighting, firearms maybe? Perhaps I can be too good at shooting I become country famous?
The first time I got to the shooting range, I completely missed a target twenty feet away and had the rifle’s scope punch me in the nose, after weeks, I didn’t feel much improvement and I lost too many challenges, I will never make it as a professional gunslinger or a sniper, and no I’m never joining the army no matter what. Fuck that.
> chess?
Nope, not good, even if I was extremely good at chess, there will always be someone better, someone they are more willed to employ at international sports, I will never be spassky
>Force yourself into getting interested in computer programming; literally learn to code as the meme says
I did try a bit but many concepts are still giving me brain damage, and even if I knew coding, there are many others who are better at it and might create something new and revolutionary, a reliable operating systems per say, I will never be Linus Torvalds or the zucc
>there’s a thing that might give you purpose, have you ever did something yourself? If you know what to do you could start becoming something big
Have I told you about the time I did my own electrical work? Let’s not, instead let me tell you about the time I tried to fix the plumbing despite watching dad fix it all the time and broke the pipes of the sink after twisting too hard in the wrong direction, or the wooden bird house I made that couldn’t last three days under the rain, I’m never becoming an architecture or at the least an instagram artist
>well, YouTube is only a click away; you could easily find a name for yourself on the internet, maybe as an influencer or political scientist?
Tried creating a YouTube channel where I post anything that might sound interesting, never made it past 10 subscribers before deleting the channel, can never think of anything witty or interesting to say, it all sounds so robotic even during editing (which I’m also terrible at), I will never be a Joe Rogan, Mark Rober, beast, penguin0, piker or anyone that seems to be doing well on it.
>enough, if you can’t do anything for shit, sell your body online, you can’t possibly be worthless at that too.
didn’t even start because I know at heart no one wants to see my ugly feet, body or face, not even a large enough cock, any video I upload will be completely at the bottom of the millions of videos and the top videos with the millions of views out there, and the uninteresting personality I have is the cherry on top, I will never be a Johnny sins.
This isn’t new, I’ve been trying to find what I’m good at since I was 18, I’m 25 now, there are many other stuff I tried, dancing, shoplifting, speed-reading, memorizing, debating, archery, fishing, I tried putting my fingers in everything but I can’t find any skills inside me, I’m either very bad, or very average, never good at it enough to impress anyone, there’s no talent, no natural gifts within me, zero, can’t work really good and can’t start up anything with confidence, completely useless, just nothing about me is exceptional, nothing makes me proud to say I’m good at it, I’m just tired of seeing people on the internet at the top of the pyramid, doing literally anything I cannot, they are capable having a talent, even a single one, and making a living out of it, and becoming famous from it, I have nothing that’s good enough to make a name
I have nothing in this life that makes me different, If I had to guess, i will work at a dead end that i'm not good at for decades until death.
No.522429
i didnt read this the whole way through yet. but it sounds like youre just scared of failure. you describe trying something for the first time, or for a couple of times, and since it doesnt work out you just abandon it. furthermore, it seems like youre choosing things at random instead of sticking to a specific hobby youre actually interested at. for example, people who are good at cooking usually really like cooking, and serving their food to their friends and family, this results in them cooking a lot, which makes them better at it. they dont cook because they decided to learn cooking out of nowhere, they do it because they truly enjoy it. same goes for artists, writers, poets, etc. try doing something you like, and do it for yourself, write a poem that you like, then keep doing it
No.522469
>>522429hear me out, because i am completely sure it's one of the symptoms, i put the blame on youtube, on there you are always overwhelmed with it's content
it has always happened to me in this order, i pick up a new interest, let's say for example, driving, i say to myself i've always wanted to drive this and do that, i look up online, i stumble upon a video, a video like this, a man who is clearly an expert, a professional, doing something spectacular, you become very fond of him, you say to yourself wow he's a legend, you check out the comments, they're all saying the same, he's a legend, and it hits me you know, that feeling of hatred, not against the guy, against me, jealousy, you try to imitate him, trying to memorize exactly what he did, and it goes badly or never as good as when you saw it, you get angry with yourself for doing nothing of real value, you move on to the next possible talent
it has always been like this with every hobby, a japanese man cooking a fish with extreme efficiency, a man scoring a basket ball hoop from meters away, a karate master doing a backflip kick, a man juggling with butterfly knives, a man making impressions, a man making a 10 million view remix using a program, a foreigner surprising the locals with his fluent language, a man drawing the most beatiful thing ever, a stand up comedian saying flawlessly something drole
you get exactly what i mean, i could never stop that feeling of jealousy, even when i quit social media and focus on a book, i keep subconsciously admiring the author's ability to make impressive dialogue, it's like this everytime i see something eye catching, like a skateboarded or a biker, the first thought isn't even admiration, it's asking what stops me from doing the same or better.
No.522651
>>522395just do something, stop caring, don't give a shit, just do anon, even if ur bad, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, just fucking do
I quote from MF DOOM - Books of War
<Once again blowin' up shit like the Twin Towersdo what u can, don't give a shit, you keep on doing it, you don't give up, you find what makes you going, no matter what OP, fuck everyone else, you do ur best, even if it's sitting there just hanging out being someone to talk to, I know you can at least wash a few dishes, play video games, and enjoy life
No.522732
>but I can’t find any skills inside me, I’m either very bad, or very average, never good at it enough to impress anyone
You're good enough for having the will to get into every intresting hobby you find when I can't get out of bed without a smoke, and stop chasing clout, the internet celebs you envy have PR departments boosting their image, in anything else they are as average as you
No.522750
>>522745Might be bro-science but I heard that once you build muscle, it's easier to maintain, and if you lose it, it's easier to build back. Also, if your nutrition is on point, you won't lose muscle overnight. Yeah, you'll deflate a bit short term, but then settle down, you won't lose all the muscle you gained.
I've been going to the gym once a week for a few months now, and I get a lot of comments that it really shows. So, it's also not an all or nothing either.
No.522752
>>522751I disagree that a choice has to be made or that heart failure is even a risk from doing resistance training.
Resistance training is very important for a shit ton of reasons, including managing insulin resistance/glucose levels, skeletal health, sleep hygiene, and particularly aesthetic reasons (particularly if you're a man who has sex with men).
You don't have to do steroids and building an insane physique like you describe, a behemoth, is actually really, really hard, near impossible if you don't do steroids, which I strongly recommend against doing. You need to dedicate your life to bodybuilding in order to achieve something like that naturally, essentially.
There's nothing prohibiting you from also doing cardio workout. I personally don't like cardio, so instead I've been doing aerobic exercise. I hope to begin running or swimming soon. Precisely because it's very good for you, also for a variety of reasons.
So yeah, there's definitely preference but just because I hate cardio and you hate the gym, doesn't mean we can't do that which we hate until we either tolerate it, or find joy in it. I'm sure that if I do cardio enough, I'll start to find pleasure doing it, or at least not want to kill myself one minute in.
My point is, you can go every day to the gym and do cardio every day too. Or alternate or whatever. It makes a lot of sense to do it, actually.
No.522754
>>522753If you want to get good at push ups, then you do push ups. If you want to get muscle volume, then you train for muscle volume. If you want to get good at calisthenics, then you do calisthenics. I bet calisthenics people suck at strength exercises at the gym, and vice versa.
I do bouldering with a gym rat. He's very strong at the gym, he can carry from 1.5 to 2x what I can carry. Yet at the bouldering gym I'm better than him, even in movements that seem to be mostly strength based.
I also boulder with a very skinny but tall dude. He weighs the same I do, but he can do way more upper body moves than I can. He can even climb without his feet, something I can't do. Yet when it comes to pull ups, I can do more than him.
Sure there's a bunch of different strength types or whatever, but in my personal opinion, your aversion to the gym is kinda dumb. You could complement your other sport activities by doing gym. Equipment is great, that's a dumb aversion to have.
I'm sure you don't disagree per se, but maybe take it seriously and go once in a while to enhance your other sport activities?
Personally, my "fitness" goals are aesthetic, mental health, and body health in that order. I want to look better, I want to feel more energy and avoid depression, and I want my body to be usable and healthy. Since cardio doesn't do much for the first goal, and gym already does a bunch for the second, I've been neglecting it.
I agree there's no "universal fitness" but there is a baseline "fitness" one has that you can "push up" and that's always good.
No.522988
>>522407>it's never about the money<how many years till I get to the top?OP, you're thinking about this entirely the wrong way. First things first, you need to practice to get better, as others have said. More than that however,
do not buy into the petit bourgeois notion that it is only worth pursuing something if you can become the best at it and /or build a career or brand out of it.I am an amateur musician, and I studied music at Uni. I am a very good guitarist - not the best, but still very good, and getting better as time goes on. We went through all the self-help bullshit, stuff about how to organise your time to "maximise productivity", etc, etc on my course, and all it did was make me feel bad for not "putting in the hours" and make me doubt whether I "had what it takes". In my research, I found that people who are forced as children to practice instruments usually do better than those who aren't, but they're also more likely to give up learning instruments as soon as they can than those who aren't pressured. Same with athletes - you can have amazingly gifted athletes who become so burnt out in their pursuit of greatness that they give up their sports entirely. In that case, they are neither the best, nor earning money from it. They got good, but at what cost?
There are 10 year-olds out there who can blow me off the stage, and I know people my own age who live in my town who can do the same. I will never be better than them (assuming they keep practicing), so what do I do? Simple:
stop fucking trying to be better than everyone else and have fun. Ironically, this thinking has made me both happier and more "productive" as a musician, which is more likely to lead to paying work -
but that's not why I'm a musician.
>>522395>I've pumped iron for literally months and no gains!Unless you're Ronnie Coleman it could take you years before you start seeing serious muscle growth, but there are lots of variables. There's a thread about weight training on /hobby/, I believe.