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For most of my life i haven't ever really had any friends who i could trust, one or two acquaintances came and went but I've never had anyone who i felt I could have a real connection with. I've gone through all of secondary school and college (idk what that would be for Americans sorry) without ever really having a real conversation with anyone. How do people socialise and where, is everything just online now or are people who didn't make long-term friendships in school fuarrrked in general when it comes to forming irl connections.

>>737372
It's too hard without college now. Either a bar but that's for short term fwb, or meetup.com or some shit.

Personally I think that if you didn't form friendships earlier in life or at least learn how to you're fucked. I think the older you get the more difficult it becomes and if you didn't get the foundations earlier then it gets even harder. Even people with established friend groups have a difficult time keeping it together so just imagine if you never really had friends to begin with? But from what I hear you have to just get yourself involved with as much activities as possible and talk to a wide variety of people or at least people from different age groups in order to establish friendships. Also friendships require effort so checking in from time to time and helping each other out and hanging are important. It seems tough though especially when you've never really had friends.

>>737372
>How do you meet new people irl?
I don't

>>737372
i've made all my recent friendships in gay bars and honestly i feel sorry for u heteros it must be very difficult for heterosexuals to make friends compared to us LGBT people!!!! heteros are not friendly at all!!! if i have to be honest it's very easy for us LGBT people to make friends with eachother

>How do you meet new people irl?
first of all by not seeking social advice on imageboards full of mentally ill reactionaries (yes, including leftypol)

secondly by socializing with people. if you aren't good at that, start by listening a lot, nodding a lot, and giving one word reactions like "nice!" if they're happy or "damn…" if they're sad or "interesting" if you're not sure how they want you to feel. believe it or not people will like you just for listening to them, because they usually get interrupted or ignored. then you "upgrade" to asking people questions about their family, occupation, relationships, goals, and grievances. Render assistance in small tasks, but also ask for help when you need help. People actually will like you more if you say their name a lot and ask them nicely for small things that they can easily give you, like holding a door open or showing you where the bathroom is. Neuroscience has shown this.

>>737416
for some reason i just cant bring myself to say peoples names. it just feels wrong.

Try courting women they will ask you to be their friends.

>>737372
Dont know or care. Its easier to keep old friends than to make new ones.

>>737372

Listen to >>737416 if your soul is burning rather dimly for your will 😴😴😴😴😴

(What you are gonna read from here is not serious in any manner and is rather a dark-tinged joke)

Buuuuut if your soul's 🔥 radiant and heroic 🔥 enough!~ you can chose the darkest path which you won't see if you'd fall on the ground hard in your following footsteps, but it is also the most REWARDING route. Ahem, I, as an expert in friendships' science, shall begin explaining the ultimate methodology:

!!!THEEEE LEGENDARY FOUR STEPS TO GET A FRIEND!!!

Firstly, you must LISTEN to your heartbeats around people, and find the guy which your heart bumps to have them as your friend, it will be your target.

Secondly, OBSERVE, watch their steps, listen to their dialogues with others if theres any, gather information about their daily routine. Their hobbies & belief system.
Preferably select someone who is rather introverted & don't have many people around them.

Then, it's time to PLAN & ACT, after you get all the information you need about their usual routine, you must find a moment where they lower their guard, theorize how you'd aproach them, and so strike at this right moment and kidnap them unconscious! Bring them to your place without raising any suspicion and somehow you should ensure nobody will look for them for 1-2 days at least.
(Alternatively, you can just aproach to them and after some empty, hollow talk, ask them to be their friend and invite them to your place after some days, then get them unconscious there)

Finally, you gotta PERSUADE them to be ur friend, when you've ensured you tied them properly, ensure the athmopshere around is rather gloomy, then let them wake up. Now, this is the most difficult and sensitive part- this is where you'll go all deep. When they look at you awake, you must strike fear in their eyes, and imply that you'll torture them if they won't go along with your game. Keep your voice tone rather low and make them know that you are the powerful being there, that your judgement alone will have them experience the hell or not.

So, start asking deep, personal questions, most preferably questions about their feelings/ideas about things- what do they think of other people? How do they want to spend their time until they finally rot? Do they believe in God? Do they feel all alone and insignificant in front of this overwhelming world? All with a low, but sharp,striking tone.
If they ever give you answers not pleasing enough- scare them with torture to remind that they are the bound to your will and they must go along with it!
Repeat asking such questions, sharing your opinion/argument after theirs, having them forced in dialogues with you, and torturing them if they won't go along.

After a few (1-2) days, look at em with empty eyes, tell them that you give up your journey and youre going to release them. Tell them that you don't really know how friendship/companionship works and you finally give up trying to be their friend.
Put a pistol or something lethal on the table, and release their ties gently.

Now, there are 3 most probable things which may happen afterwards:
1) They will escape their way out and call the police - (UNDESIRABLE OUTCOME)
2) They will grab the gun and kill yo there - (NEUTRAL OUTCOME)
3) They will accept being your lifelong friend - (HAPPY OUTCOME)

Thank me later cowboy :DDD

>>737438
anon bless you im a different anon but i first thought you were ai posting but this is good advice

>>737415
Honestly I feel super jealous of queer people for this specific thing. The difference in friendliness between queer parties/clubs and more hetero ones is night and day. People just approach you and start chatting with you just for fun in the former, and they don't even care if you have weirdo vibes (which I do). I wish I'd realized this from a much younger age too because I'm quickly aging out of clubbing.

>>737460
That’s because in LGBT clubs, it’s obvious that people are looking to get lucky and don’t have time for pretentious formalities because they’re still not accepted as normal.

Cishet folk, being the standard norm, don’t feel the need for desperation, that is until they age out of fertility.

>>737395
Here’s something that most people will not agree with:

Social circles are already solidified by age ten thru thirteen.
People assume that it’s automatically easier to make friends in your teens and twenties compared to older age groups but it’s just as difficult
The only reason it seems “easier” to socialize in youth is due to mandatory schooling and lack of any autonomy.
However, your freedom of choice for friends is lower because of this

>>737460
Are there other places with similar vibes? I really wish I knew..

If you want to make friends, go befriend the lonely kids, the homeless, elderly, or jaded workers

>>737416
The problem for many of us is how to start socialization without it being weird.

>>737489
I don't agree with this because I've also been chatted up by lesbians and guys who made no move towards me (even before they realized I was straight). Unless you mean that they're so used to a casual approach towards hooking up that it also trickles down to how they approach friendly non-sexual interactions, but idk.
>>737493
I wish I knew too lol.

>>737415
just learned chihuahua anon is gay. maybe i am a bad person


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