Good point. The systema breathwork is good, but as self defence training it's crap. If they just did it like tai chi in the park for health it'd be alright.
, I have the slightly different problem. I've dabbled in various martial arts, but I don't know really how well they'd work, because my deescalation skills are really good.
I had one potential road rage incident the other day.
Him: do you want a fight? I'll fucking knock you out.
Me: No, I don't want a fight.
And we didn't fight!
When your blood is up all the good advice you've read about being the better man by walking away is useless, though.
You just can't think like that in the heat of the moment.
What works is "verbal judo" trickery. If you can make it clear to the other guy that (and any witnesses) that you're not the one starting the violence, you're just trying to stop the other person's violence. So basically, you're thinking to you're self I'm tricking him, if he starts it then he looses both ways. I can hurt him, but also, I won't get punished.
What would I fight for? I'd fight against predatory muggers, etc. I've done loads of knife training (kali), tested in the park with a mate trying to plug me with a rubber knife. (The only thing that worked reliably was pulling a weapon i. e. Ted lucaylucay-esque pocket stick
and chaining attacks with it myself.)
Basically, I can't afford to get mugged, financially or psychologically.
In these case, the story I'd tell myself is be a hero, really fight off multiple attackers or with weapons IRL,or go down fighting (my old age will probably be one of poverty, so won't miss living to an old age anyway.)
The problem is this type of training isn't as so testable as wresting or boxing a single unarmed opponent though.
There's an uncomfortable grey area between fights you can avoid and one's you are prepared to risk everything for. If someone is trying to bully you, if you don't do anything they'll do it more. Or someone is harassing your GF. You can't really do nothing. I work on some (mostly standing) grappling for this, grappling from clinches, double wrist locks. Not going a class, though I have done some wrestling . Just doing a few minutes sometimes with a grappling dummy in the morning sometimes. (Some wrist ties and underhooks from the video too, just to get some crossover between wrestling and knife defence)