/lgbt/ - LGBT

Literal bottoming as in getting fucked in the ass? Training by inserting progressively bigger things up there and not neglecting lube hasn't done it for you?
If you just mean sexual submission, if you don't like it you don't like it.

>>1876
>>1879
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Regarding sexual submission, I'm a soft dom top but I've bottomed. It can be pleasurable without the sexual submission.

sorry anon, bottoming is kinda heteronormative and fascist :/ under communism the top/bottom hierarchy will be abolished and everyone will frot

>>1879
>Training by inserting progressively bigger things up there and not neglecting lube hasn't done it for you?
I mean that feels kinda nice but feels different and less pleasurable when actually getting fucked, don't have that many toys tho
>>1881
shut up

>>1882
You also need to take it very slow. Is your partner just ramming it? They need to start slow with a few fingers or small toys and work their way up during the session.

Also you need to get used to the feeling and learn how to relax etc.

>>1879
you don't need bigger objects, you can reach the prostate with your index finger

>>1876
find a better position or a better top

>>1886
>you can reach the prostate with your index finger
actually that too is a problem, getting my prostate punched directly gives me discomfort not pleasure

>>1888
Well is penetrative sex enjoyable for ya at all? If not then look into non-penetrative stuff, i.e. frotting.

>>1886
>you don't need bigger objects, you can reach the prostate with your index finger
But he's probably not getting fucked by people with dicks that thin, is the point. It's about training to accommodate real sex.

>>1881
Nah everyone will form gay circles and everyone will fuck and be fucked.

>buy new dildo to try the tips you guys gave me
>8inch tgirl who was supposed to top me stops replying
is god trying to tell me something?

"Bottom" and "top" are marketing labels used by financialized neoliberal platforms such as Grindr that turn humans into easily sortable commodities to extract revenue from. Its like that psyop they invented: "are you a side???" (i.e a normal human like 80% of people)

Its like a toy store that sells "girl toys" and "boy toys"…bitch where are you shoving that Rubix cube??? Most toys are just plain old "toys", but capitalists need to market their bullshit in the most pure ideology fashion (fascism)

>>1924
>sexual preferences are (online leftoid buzzwords)
lol pseud thinks hes submitting an article to medium

the only real problem is straggots taking the top/bottom dynamic out of the context where it makes sense, the bedroom, so now you have people thinking its some fucking personality trait

>>1924
t. seething side
sorry sweaty, most guys do actually enjoy and want to fuck.

>>1888
that's odd - do you have any other sexual or urinary symptoms that suggest something is wrong? if so you might wanna get checked out

>>1876
i like the idea of bottoming too but have been struggling to get around being a porn addict and so used to jerking off that other stimulation isn't as pleasurable, has anyone else dealt with this

>>1924
real
>>1929
false prophet

>>1950
I also jerk off a lot, I've used a buttplug and it was great like 40% of the time and very awkward like 60% of the time. When it clicked though it was amazing. You have to always, always use generous lube though and it requires patience I think. I dont do it that often cause its more effort with less consistency than touching dick

>>1881
based

I just don't know how it could possibly be pleasurable. Having something shoved up your arse just hurts and is uncomfortable. Is it just like a 'doing something for your partner' kind of thing where you're not meant to enjoy it yourself? In theory I do like it though.

>>3493
I used to think this as well, but recently i just got into the right mood, took out my old, sanded-off makeshift phallus and did it slowly, gently and with a lot of spit. I have trouble in the other department because i'm cut, so this might have been the second genuine orgasm i had in my life, but it's definitely something that's hard to do on demand. In practice most bottoming probably isn't pleasurable in a physical sense, emerging as a vestige of heteronormativity more than anything.

Obviously not everyone is the same and not everyone is going to enjoy and react to things the same way, but as someone who was also a 'theoretical' bottom in that I found the idea of bottoming very arousing but initially found actual bottoming difficult, frustrating and not very pleasurable at all, I feel I have a duty to tell you to not give up and practice, practice, practice. Ideally with a partner.

By not giving up and gradually learning what works for me and how to bottom comfortably and training I was able to get to a place where I literally love nothing more than getting railed, my bf gives me handsfree orgasms but even without them just getting fucked makes me shake and moan with pleasure.

So don't give up on your bottom dreams, its entirely possible you just need to (gently) push past your resistance, get to know your body better, relax and get in the right headspace.

>>1876
be a power bottom

if ur trans it could be bottom dysphoria
might have to get the old out-in if you can

>>3551
also regardless of gender dysphoria: learn what gets u into a sexy mood
maybe u have a kink that u need to discover

>>3500
>eva
gay

>>1879
How frequently do you have to train Im kinda autistic and won't remember to do it if I don't schedule it

To be lazy you can just imagine being penetrated and orgasm from that.
I'd imagine cock/dildo/finger penetrating me, rubbing against my prostate – feels like as I kinda did it physically.
Still orgasm, bussy twitching, jolts of energy making me have to push my head against the pillow, etc.

Not as good as the real thing.
That makes me see stars and my tetinitus kicking in

>>3559
I just do it right before I fuck. The muscles can be trained to give you better control and a better sense of tightness and stuff, but they doesn't stay loosened except immediately after when the muscles gets tired out.