Why can’t I relate to other trans people? I just can’t relate to the level of comfort and pride and self-love many of them have. It genuinely seems like so many of them don’t have the part of the brain that makes them cringe. They’re just so unfiltered and unapologetic, I just can’t relate at all, I constantly feel like a gross disgusting excuse for a woman and feel scared interacting with the world as one. I don’t know why I cling so strongly onto this meekness, maybe it’s misogyny, I just associate being boisterous and loud with being masculine. I can’t relate to how willing they are to make cringy niche trans memes to their cis friends. I just am so anxious to discuss transness in any open forum where I know cis people might see it. I admit I still have this kind of backwards view that being trans is something shameful and it would be better to stealth if possible. Idk what to do, I want this level of comraderie other trans people have but being in trans spaces, especially trans women spaces just makes me cringe, it either feels like it’s full of very bro-ish sorts of trans women who are unapologetically masculine, or trans women who feel sort of overly preformatively feminine. I genuinely just can’t relate to most of trans culture right now.
There's no singular culture for a minority, you'll eventually find one that better matches you. Also, being trans is kind of a special case, since, like you mentioned, stealth is a thing, and huge portions of the community are indistinguishable from cis people. With the pressure to not be trans in an increasingly hostile world, the ones who aren't either boymoding or stealth, hiding at one end or another, are the ones who have decided to not give a shit and be entirely, unapologetically themselves. This makes them look cringe, but they're arguably the bravest of us, so I'm not complaining. They deserve to express their joy. A lot of them also don't have a choice, and are fighting their way through the days with that loud positivity as a weapon. So much of how queer people interact with the world is on the terms of cishet overlords in this way, it can be exhausting, but it's what we've got right now.
>>3942>considering you find him so annoying and unfunnyi just said i dont find his jokes funny you defensive fucking retard lmfao
do you think friendship can only manifest as being the personal jester of someone else?
>>3940My honest advice, not that you're obligated to pursue it ofc, is to take a shotgun approach: find other losers
online until you meet one with similar interests and compatible personality.
>Nobody will ever like me or want to be my friend or ever love meDespair talking, seeing as I once said the same as you I can't blame you too much for it.
>>3980For an autist like me then yes that’s the only possible way for “friendship” to manifest as.
>>3990I’ve tried that. I’ve joined tons of discord servers with the same interests as me and nobody ever took an interest in me even though I talked often. I’ve never had a real online friend
>>3990tbh this is just socializing in general. its all a numbers game but normal people already socialize regularly with plenty of different people so its easy to not realize it
do idiots here unironically believe neurotypicals all like each other? thats retarded
This is only tangentially related, but lately i've had to interact with a reasonably well-passing oldtranshumanist a lot, who just creeps me out with their mannerisms, and i say this as a twinkhon boymoder. While physically they pass reasonably well, the evidence has been mounting: skin and fashion sense don't match with likely age, facial structure feels off, alway has a raspy voice, hunched posture, unusual gait, gaunt figure, adjusts hair unusually often, often gets very close, badly coordinated gestures, unflattering lipstick, transhumanist bob, job in computer science.
I feel rude trying to avoid their presence and attention, yet i don't know how else to manage my disgust/externalized dysphoria. There's something fundamentally creepy about someone in their 50s or early 60s acting like my 70+ grandma who can barely walk to the local supermarket, even if the drag is convincing and everyone else just seems to roll with it.
>>4111This is just entirely projecting your own insecurities
>>4143You're not going to make random women uncomfortable. Most people love talking to others. Start going to a sewing club or writing group or something. It sounds like you are scared of other women because you haven't been around them enough. The answer to that isn't to keep away, but to intermingle, learn what it means to be a woman.
>>4204Everyone has a self-image and the instinct to preserve it. I guess everybody must be a narcissist then lmao.
Just because self-image is a big part of narcissism doesnt mean that the concept of self-image is inherently linked to narcissism. You clearly get all of your psychology info from social media.
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