I'm fat queer and autistic and I feel like my entire life I've been made to feel like I am broken and I am wrong and my body is wrong and my feelings are wrong and everything about who I am is wrong and that I need to be fixed. When I was younger I tried very hard to fix myself and be what society expects me to be and I actually made a lot of progress in that respect, but conforming only made me even more miserable, I felt like I lost myself and didn't even know who I was anymore. Now I try to just be myself and be okay with who I am and I'm not so miserable now and I don't hate myself or hate my body anymore, but I still struggle to make a living or be accepted in this world and I still feel like there's no place in the world for someone like me.
>>4774Just stop eating and at least you won't be fat. It's really that simple. You have a mouth hole. Stop inserting food into it.
>>4775Not exactly that simple, you can't really lose weight effectively without exercise. But yes it is changeable.
As for the other things, just try find a job where those aren't an impediment
>>4776>Not exactly that simple, you can't really lose weight effectively without exercise. But yes it is changeable.I wouldn't know, I've never been fat in my life. I don't eat a lot. I can't even picture "over eating." I eat whatever I want when I want, but I often don't eat. I probably undereat. Just don't be fat. Jesus Christ. It's as simple as not eating. For realsies. I mean I'm probably fucked up, I'm a midget, but I'll never be fat.
>>4777I mean, I honestly hate eating things like cake and stuff. The sugar tastes disgusting in my mouth. It makes my saliva feel unnaturally syrupy. Beyond that stop fucking with all those chips and those phytotoxins and etc.
Fuck, grains. Just eat your greens and meat and dairy.
>>4778And that grain slop is the same slop they feed to the cows, that they sell to you at a higher price because the flesh of a cow raised on grain slop is worth more than grain slop itself. That's valued added.
>>4775>Just stop eating and at least you won't be fat. It's really that simple. You have a mouth hole. Stop inserting food into it.Just stop having sex with men and at least you won't be a fag. It's really that simple. You have an asshole. Stop inserting dicks into it.
It's interesting how we draw the line between what is an innate part of our personality and what is not.
>>4780Alright chill fatass, you were the one that described yourself as fat to begin with. Ok that's like your sexual identity or whatever I get it. You identify as a can't find his own dick under his stomach folds sexual.
>>4775You're very intelligent and that's a very clever and original hot take, we are lucky to have insightful brilliant minds like yours in the LGBT community please stay in it and never leave we really want to be your friend.
The key part of the post that nobody here can seem to pick up on is "conforming only made me even more miserable, I felt like I lost myself and didn't even know who I was anymore." That's kind of a big deal, or at least it's supposed to be. Do you not have any sense of self? Are you just a chameleon that takes whatever form suits you best in the moment? I tried to live that way and I couldn't do it, it was mentally and physically killing me. I don't know how you sociopaths can live that way your whole life, never being yourself, never even knowing who you really are, always trying to be someone else. I've never wanted to be anyone else.
>>4777It depends on your metabolism. Some people can gain weight very easily and some people‘s urge to eat can also be stronger.
>>4774have you considered going to the gym
it will release happy chemicals and make you feel better about yourself, the hardest thing is just going
OP here, I think you're missing the point I'm trying to make here, which is about the very real human need for authenticity.
I know this is an utterly taboo idea in our extremely superficial media-oriented capitalist society, but some people are just naturally supposed to be fat, it's part of who they are and changing their bodies and becoming thin to better fit in with mainstream society doesn't make them happy, it makes them miserable.
It's just a matter of self-image, no different than things like gender identity - you see yourself as a certain particular kind of person, that is your internally projected self-image. If you see yourself as a person who is supposed to be thin and you are fat, you will be experience feelings of dysphoria because your body does not match your self-image. Conversely if you naturally see yourself as a fat person but you are pressured to become thin by outside influence, you will experience feelings of dysphoria because your body does not match your self-image. You are who you are.
I feel like we live in this culture/era where authenticity doesn't seem to matter anymore, this "fake it til you make it" social media influencer/self-help ted talk sort of culture where people have no inner sense of self at all, they don't see themselves at all, they see themselves as blanks or wildcards and only think about how they are seen by others, they allow themselves to be defined entirely by outside influence and they live in fear of "cringe" i.e. exposure, having their genuine repressed self publicly laid bare for everyone to see. People see themselves as a broken incomplete work in progress and they put everything in their lives on hold until they are "fixed" and they can conform to social expectations.
So, of course, if someone like me were to come out and say something like "Yes I am fat but that's who I am and I'm perfectly okay with that and I'm not going to change to conform to society; society should change to conform to me." - people who are putting themselves through all this psychological torment by believing they are broken/incomplete and toiling away their lives in vain trying to fix themselves are going to be baffled and likely outraged to hear something like that, to face the possibility that all of their sacrifice and hard work and alienation and depression and pain and suffering, that all of it has been for nothing.
Authenticity, figuring out who you really are and just being yourself, is important. People can't live inside of a lie, they need authenticity, they need to be themselves or else they'll be miserable and they'll go crazy and probably kill themselves or something.