Do you remember when you realized you were gay or trans?
For me it was these bowflex infomercials. I think I got my first boner to one of them and I still use fitness influencers as my primary 'bate material. And it was then that I realized that I was gay for other men.
I don't exactly remember when I first felt attraction for men, since my first sexual experience/dream was related to clothing. I think it was that I was searching for images of suits and came across a tumble gif of this video
https://www.boyfriendtv.com/videos/1319888/a-wedding-day-1/?utm_source=awn&utm_medium=tgp&utm_campaign=cpc and found it very hot, then I found one guy from a year above me handsome, or maybe I found him handsome before this porn? I am not actually sure if the video was the point since I remember fantasizing about rubbing with another guy front to front inside his cummerbund (I thought they were elastic) in a car
>>7961High school locker room
I realised I was lesbian when I had a crush on an emo girl at school when I was 13. The popular girls and boys at that age seemed immature and fairly toxic to me, with their fake empathy and their pointing out things i have never done (e.g. they said that I littered even though I didn't).
>>7967lmao who the fuck cares about littering
I found out I was bisexual when I had sex with a transvestite, but I have a strong preference for feminity hence trans inclusion, non trans men rarely look or act feminine so I'm basically straight and don't really identify with the LGBT culture although I sympathize.
i found out that i was bisexual when i fell in love with a boy in my high school, i never got to talk to him since he left the school and never returned
i'm bi - i still don't know how to process the fact that my sexual awakening was caused by a gay furry chiptune musician from the late 2000s/early 2010s
I'm cis and bisexual so there wasn't really a turning point but more of an escalation, from finding boy characters in cartoons cute when I was a kid, to finally making out with a dude in my early 20s.
I lied to myself about being straight for my entire life. I just kinda pushed the question of attraction to the same sex, or anybody trans, to the back of my mind. It's really easy for a man to do this if he's attracted to women, don't you think? Unless he couldn't get any and was desperate for any kind of romantic attention.
I read some post online one day where someone described the idea of being attracted to either some degree of femininity or masculinity and it just completely clicked. You can hide a part of yourself from others. Especially if it's not necessary for self expression. But hiding it from yourself? That doesn't work long term.
when i was a really little kid my view of gender was pretty much "yeah it would be better to be a boy, but we cant all get what we want. someone has to take one for the team, feminism and girl power exist to make us less upset about that" and then i found out what trans people and gender dysphoria were and realized that was why i felt like that
i was a boy scout, that's all it took
When I was 12 I played MMORPGs presenting as a girl and felt much more comfortable being treated and perceived like a girl to the point life irl started to feel depressing and shit in comparison.
At the time I didnt even know what transness was. Wish I had known.
pretty embarrassing. actually thought i "couldnt be trans" as a full on adult for over a decade because the internet told me i wouldnt pass. realized from reading some communist adjecent philosophy that its not exactly a choice and then continued to repress for years because of the intellectual justifications of said theory leading me to believe that just because medical intervention wasnt necessary to identity that meant is wasnt critical for me. that was an incorrect assumption. in the end reading too many books was harmful and i knew what needed to be done all along but was avoiding the work, sort of like other things…
I found out I was bi in the late 00s when emo was still huge. I was a teenager then, I remember being really jealous of emo guys because of how androgynous and cute they were and wishing I could look like them. Then somewhere down the road that envy gave way to attraction. Surprisingly I didn't have any guilt about it despite growing up in a homophobic area and family, I just thought "huh guess I'm bi. cool." and went on with life.
Gender took a lot more time to deal with. I know as a teen I only hung out with girls (though only the tomboyish/nerdy ones) because I hated the way guys acted, how everything they did seemed to be for the purpose of helping themselves get laid. But I still considered myself a guy, just one with an androgynous personality. During the early/mid 10s there started to be an increasing presence of trans people, and after learning about how people transition I really wanted to start, but then soon after I wound up in a shitty reactionary phase that had me repping so hard I forgot all about it. I even hated trans people for a while, though instead of the usual muh bathrooms/sports/etc reasons it was online bullshit like "they're just doing it for oppression points and clout".
Then in late 2024 I finally escaped that phase, opened my mind back up, and came to terms with being trans. Still in the closet to everyone but my friends, though.
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