>>8775my point is that your approach itself is flawed. the basic behavioral pattern is a general part of the human condition and particularly generalizable to many mental health/developmental conditions in particular. because of that, it is your singling out of transsexuals that raises the analogy to the image, not the "btw i'm obviously transphobic" part at the very end.
most people are not honest about most of the things they do. indeed, most people are not so much dishonest about their feelings and actions as they are
completely ignorant of them, desperately grasping for the narrative that best explains why they feel the way they do.
just as it is manifestly unreasonable to expect transgender people to dismantle gender roles all by themselves, it is unreasonable to put any particular responsibility on them for living "honestly" (or, if you accept my framing, "awarely" or "consciously") above and beyond that applied to everyone else.
>>8776while i would generally endorse the libertarian principle you run into problems when it comes to, say, public healthcare providers. you either have to accept that they'll stop covering the practical/medical elements of transitioning, or get quite utopian about the sorts of things the state will pay for you to have done just because you want it to happen.
which is also true, incidentally, for neurodivergence in general. for all the flaws of the current medicalization fetish, there exists a world where attempts to prevent it successfully strip away useful interventions while leaving the basic "dishonest" or "ignorant" structure in place.