There's this girl at my work who I really wanna cuddle up with/bang, she's like a recent graduate student or something, at first she was really shy but gotten more friendly over time. She's really tall and I kinda get the vibe she might be a transgirl, not like I can just ask obviously, or not like it really matters, but I feel fantasizing about fucking her cute ass. I wanna get her to warm up with me more and get more comfortable with each other.
She's clearly nerdy and shy which gets me going. She comes in and makes tea while wearing neon blue headphones sometimes and is oblivious. I like watching her bend over the copy machine.
Anyways, I'm pretty sure it would be a bad idea to actually hit on her, I really like this job and I'm 33 (though young looking) and she's like in her early 20s I think so I don't wanna get fired for being a groomer or whatever. Plus I just don't wanna make things awkward in general or make her uncomfortable at work.
What should I do anons? Other than furiously jerk off thinking about her? Should I embrace my chaser urges? What if she likes me too?
God i wish i was able to fall in love with people like you can. 8 years of antipsychotics has beaten any romanticism and daydreaming out of me.
>>9790Just do it, the end result doesn't have to result in something sexual, perhaps you'll make a friend or would have atleast introduced yourself . people generally like being hit on if its tactful even if the feeling isn't mutual, I stress the tactful part because things can become awkward because work can force people to be in the same space, which is why people generally advise against workplace romances because of breakups and sexual harassment allegations.
Test the waters with small talk. If she's friendly you can move a step closer with light flirting. If she seems to be into it ask her to grab a coffee some time and get her number (or give her yours).
>>9795I think she's fairly friendly now, still a bit skittish, but could try more small talk and asking about her life etc. It's kind of awkward though because we work in different rooms and I don't really have any reason to go over and hang out in her part of the office unless I'm actively doing something over there which will require my actual attention (it's the client facing area of the office), I don't really have much excuse to just sit down and chill there and chat with her. It would make it so obvious what I was doing lol.
Even if I did, I don't really know how to move things to "light flirting", anything I can think of just seems so like "1950s sexual harassment" coded, maybe that's just the feminist spooks in my brain that you can never approach a woman at work, or ideally anywhere, unless you somehow know she's going to like it beforehand.
I looked on Facebook and I think I see her profile but she only has one low quality profile pic and I'm kinda faceblind so I'm not 100% lol. Everything else on there is private and I can't even send a friend request without messaging her first.
Honestly I don't even know, this whole thing is probably a bad idea, I live with my BF and we're open but he said I'm only allowed to have guys open, not any girls lol. So where would I even take her. Maybe it's better off as a fantasy - but they say you regret the things you don't do more than the stuff you do right?
>>9792Offtopic, but did you experience maladaptive daydreaming? If so, which antipsychotic helped you with that, what dosage, and how long did it take?
>>9807>It would make it so obvious what I was doing lol.Trying to keep your intentions a secret is more likely to lead to creepy behavior than being direct.
>I don't really know how to move things to "light flirting"Well, it’s not easy to teach someone this if you don’t got a clue. You won’t have to slap her ass and tell her to make your dinner. Not yet at least.
>unless you somehow know she's going to like it beforehand.You can’t know that beforehand, which is why you test the waters with light flirting.
>I live with my BF and we're open but he said I'm only allowed to have guys open, not any girls lol.Well, this got more complicated if it involves possibly crossing the boundaries of an existing relationship. You can’t be half assed here. You need to know what you want.
Ask her out for dinner sometime and see how she responds. If she says shes busy of smth just forget it.
If she rejects you or if you date and it goes wrong its fine. Just be an adult and keep treating her cordially but distant.
>>9809I still do it all the time. Its usually about me in ordinary situations but sutrounded by friends who think im cool. A bit of romantic stuff which makes me feel pathetic. Extremely elaborate scenarios with imaginary people i find attractive. Still no ability to develop feelings for real people i see and interact with. Though i take quetiapine but only 100mg a day and its mostly paroxetine and tegretol causing emotional numbness for me. I genuinelly cannot experience joy anymore at all. On top of that i already have adhd so my dopamine is almost nonexistent which makes both the adhd and anhedonia so much worse. Cant get off of them cause im on psychiatric probation for arson and its gonna be at least 3 years until i can quit them and start taking concerta
>>9816
this is definitely not fucking true, especially if she's is trans
>>9819I definitely don't get the impression "she's fit but my gosh don't she know it", she dresses very mousy, always long skirts and jackets generally even in the recent horrible heatwave we've been having. I want to show her how beautiful she is~
>>9810I get what you're saying, obviously the boyfriend stuff is a bit of a hassle, to be clear he's okay with me going out and screwing girls elsewhere lol. I guess I want to focus on the more fun part of the fantasy of thinking about how to seduce her. Also, at the moment I've been having a nasty rash that has been impossible to diagnose (yes I've been getting it treated but has been resistant/slow going) so I wouldn't really wanna sleep with someone new just in case. At the moment I'm just pondering the question mostly for my own enjoyment.
>>9817Can you write to the judge and say why you want to change medications? Worth a try.
>>9821The judge doesnt decide. Its the psychiatrist appointed to me and the judge just agrees. Shes afraid im still a danger to society so until the probation period ends i will likely only see small decreases in doses. The psychostabilisers are the most important in my "treatment" so i doubt ill see her taking me off them.
>>9790Cis women can be tall too, how do you even know she is trans outside of stereotyping that cis women can’t be tall so any tall woman is trans, lol.
>>9833It's not just height, I dunno how to explain it, but, she just kinda looks trans to me. Maybe I'm wrong I dunno. She's still cute either way.
>>9834I don’t want this to come across as transphobic, but does she have masculine facial features?
>>9835Ehhhh, idk? Maybe? I'm not very good with faces and things like that, I just know what feeling I get.
>>9835Cis women can have those as well
>>9835>>9834it's called clocky swag you utter faggots
>>9828
Neither am I. This was in Eastern europe.
>>9880
Do you dislike that fact? Or enjoy it?
>>9886
And yet, femboys are hated for doing this same thing
>>9903
You know, when you see this kinda stuff over on the clover site's /tttt/ you just roll your eyes and move on, but here? For some reason, you expect people to be better. I guess men are the same everywhere, after all.
>>9905Let’s not act like women aren’t discriminatory either. Also, you’re forgetting that this imageboard userbase hails from 4chan and 8chan
>>9886
You know If I found this on mainstream platforms from cishet females I would roll my eyes and move on but for here, I expected people to be better
I guess women are the same everywhere, trans or cis, after all
>>9941
>incel SMV shit but for women
woohoo
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