I love trans women but i also love cis women and guys and i genuinely see tgirls as real women. I consider support for the trans community an integral part of my political worldview yet every time i see one and think shes hot i always have that though go through my head and i feel disgusted by myself. This happens specially when i watch trans porn even though thats just one of the many types of porn i watch. It got to the point that if i ever met a transwoman in real life id be too scared to even look at her let alone talk to her for fear that i might come off as a chaser. I do have ocd which might play a part but it is not one of the main themes currently so i dont think its that alone
How do i stop feeling like a creep?
Well first of all, most people aren't gonna care what you think about when you look at porn. It's not hurting anybody. When it comes to real interactions with people, I think it's best to replace "coming off as a chaser" with "objectification". Because the former is seems like a very complex topic, special to transpeople, with all kinds of variations but objectification is probably something you're familiar. And as long as you are not objectifying her, and making a genuine effort to connect with her as a person, you are gonna dodge 99% of ways you could possibly be coming off as a chaser without even trying.
>>9897Generally men have to chase the women, not even trans women but women in general. If youre solely attracted to trans then you have a problem.
>>9913Why is it a problem if dude is into chicks with dicks?
>>9914Because trans are supposed to be women which means you're objectifying them either for their genitalia or transness
>>9915And yet if men don’t chase them, transwomen will complain about being “invisible”
>>9917That's how you know they are real women.
I'm honestly unsure of what to do either. I always found myself relating more with trans women compared to cis women and ended up finding myself mainly interested in them. I don't think I fetishize trans women in particular though. Like genitals and body proportions etc. don't really matter to me as long as you're happy.
I think I'm either a chaser in denial, trans myself, or attracted to people with autism
where are these people in MY life
>>11076as long as its not you being trans yourself I dont think most trans women mind, so long as your not weird about like wanting them to not get vaginas n shit
here is an alternative perspective: maybe you're a creep
technically this doesn't mean that you can't change and stop being a creep, but as far as I'm aware they haven't yet invented the type of therapy or meds that would make you stop being a creep
>>11087People can post a story about a serial killer that dismembered a woman and made shoes out of her skin and theres aleays gonna be some traner thats like "giwtwm"
well I mean, I just think slightly creepy dudes r hot
>>11110online everyone is a chaser but IRL even if ur kinda fine not a soul wants to touch you what gives
I was the one to commission that one neighsayer drawing of the chubby boymoder getting her cute chubby stomach groped
Just accept that as a man your sexuality will always be demonized and take what you want anyway.
>>11119Most chasers are kind of neurotic. Cism chasers are usually ashamed and afraid to make moves. Cisf chasers tend to be manipulative bpdemons. Both types like to be online
If I was a trans woman, I’d be t4t.
>>11119cause we dont wanna get called out as chasers and made fun of by you
Be 7 psl or above.
>>11119Men are generally scared of women.
t. Cismoid
>>11140Yeah absolutely, you never know what she will say or do, and you will get blamed for it
This is just a question of how you pursue people in general. If you flirt with or hit on somebody in a way that doesn't objectify them completely and treats them like a person to make a connection with rather than a trophy to be won, then you are not a chaser.
I am a trans woman and I don't think anything you've said makes you sound like a chaser. All you've really said is that you are attracted to women (cis and trans) and you like porn. It's fine to be attracted to women and like porn. Chaser usually means someone who fetishizes the transness of a trans woman which it doesn't sound like you are doing. It is also has a negative connotation not because it describes a moral failing but because people who do that tend to try to stop trans women from getting bottom surgery. Honestly I think the thing you've described that is most likely to freak out trans women is the fact that you are afraid to talk to them.
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