>>513860>and any issues with the disorder as a societal problem even when it's stuff like some autist being socially crippled to the point of not being able to make any friends or connect emotionally to anyone or many of the deeper psychological problems that can arise from the disorder.The fallacy here is that every claim of alleged social deficits on the side of autists is framed in a universal and uncontextual manner which is rooted in assuming that the social dynamics that arise out of the allistic psychology are objectively right. It‘s taken so much as a given that it‘s not even considered as a factor.
The social deficits you speak of are in actuality the problems that arise out of people of differing cognitive types possessing a social intuition that is not congruent with the other. It‘s comparable to how people of different cultures can have conflict with one another because their behavior somehow offends the socialized sensibilities of the other while the other side is oblivious that they have apparently offended them.
The end product of the socializing person is not only determined by nurture though but also by biology. Allistic and autistic people have distinct psychological differences because of innate neurological differences. This subsequently impacts their social sensibilities, intuition and inclinations. Both have equal troubles understanding the other, but because allistics are in the majority they determine the greater social dynamic that naturally unfolds from their psychological inclinations. Allistics have a social advantage where they don‘t need to adapt to autistic people (and many people are ignorant of the concept of differing cognitive types so they aren’t even aware of this conundrum to begin with) so all burden to adapt and accommodate the other side is placed on autistic people. If autistic people behave in a manner that is authentic to them then by virtue of being different they will be bullied, excluded and ostracized. They don‘t have to do anything immoral or actually harmful, merely for behaving in a manner that allistic people perceive as odd will be met with social punishment. But this puts the autistic person in a difficult spot because their being is naturally different from allistics, so they will be odd to allistics by default. This perpetual pain of bullying and exclusion for being perceived as odd by allistics forces autistic people to adapt but they are put to a task that would be difficult for anybody. They must understand allistic psychology to then predict how allistics would interpret or feel about doing X to avoid doing it, which which is very difficult because as an autistic person you don’t feel the same way about the same behavior. You are left to guess something that is alien to your psychology. Autistics then have to change their behavior to not come off as odd, which goes against their own social intuition which is quite confusing to deal with. This is a mentally laborious task that is very exhausting. When autistic people fail at that, which many perpetually will in childhood and teenhood until they have properly learned how to mask in adulthood, the bullying and exclusion also strips them of other psychological needs such as acceptance, companionship and intimacy, which leaves them psychologically ill developed. Many autists suffer from PTSD because such social miss steps in the past often times resulted in social punishment. This is the real source of the autistic melt down. It doesn‘t come about because autism produces the inclination of autistic people to randomly experiencing a melt down, rather it‘s a combination of how exhausting it is to adapt to social dynamics that are alien to your social intuitions, being depraved of psychological needs all human beings have and PTSD from perpetual social punishment.
None of those consequences are traits inherent to autism itself, as if regardless of social context they would arise in a vacuum, but instead they are specifically brought about by being a cognitive type that is in the minority while the majority does not compromise with your natural differences whatsoever. If the roles were reversed and allistic people were in this situation you would experience the exact same problem. But by ignoring the factor of social context and by assuming autistic people are the only right way of being human one would conclude allistics are simply defect and all arising problems are innate to being allistic in itself.
>While probably not intentional, it feels like many of them shove autistics who express their pains with autism out of the way to tell people how great it is to be autisticThe pains autistic people express are never shoved away by autistic people and real allies, quite the contrary, they try to communicate and educate the rest of society about them to create a more understanding and tolerant relationship between autistic and allistic people. The reason why they speak of autism positively is because to frame autism solely as a defect is wrong and also puts a toll on the self-esteem of autistic people. There is no shortage of negative claims about autism, and autistic people are most aware of it. So don‘t worry, we won‘t live in a SJW dystopia any time soon where no autistic person is aware of the disadvantages that arise out of their conditions.
>they go on about how even the idea of giving the former autistics the option to be cured is eugenicsAutism can not be „cured“ just like being a black person can not be „cured“. That you even believe that would be an appropriate response stems from the fallacies I just explained above and is undoubtedly a eugenicist standpoint, regardless if you have no ill intent.
>based on very little actual benefits of autism that could apply to all autisticsThis is yet again a part of this eugenicist reasoning where autistic people have to prove their right to existence by having traits you deem positive. They don‘t. You merely have to accept that people exist that are not like yourself.
>And many of their takes also border on outright autistic supremacism seeing themselves as not equal, but SUPERIOR to non-autistics.Well, they probably think that because the allistic psychology is quite clearly geared towards maximizing one‘s social status and being a part of a group at all costs. That’s why allistics engage in harmful behavior to maintain or increase what they have in those regards, even at the cost of truth and justice. Meanwhile, the autistic psychology is devoid of a desire to attain higher social status, and the rather object oriented mind of autistic people makes them also socially self-less in a way. Autistic people don’t (intuitively) understand many of the behaviors of allistic people, not out of stupidity, but because it‘s foreign to their psychology. I don‘t go out of my way to feel superior to others, I never wanted things to signify higher social status, I never utilized exclusivity to fabricate an image of higher social worth, I never made fun of anyone for being different, I despise social manipulation to get a leg above others, I wondered since childhood why people aren‘t all unconditionally loving towards everyone. There simply is no need for this kind of social competition allistics always engage in. All of that looks blatantly irrational when you are devoid of any desire to engage in this behavior. I often heard the same opinion and experiences by other autistic people, so I am not surprised that autistic people would then conclude that they must be morally superior.