/siberia/ - Off-topic

cold take. the default stance in society is that you mustn’t ever blame your parents for problems they caused you and that doing so leads to people assuming that you are just making excuses and don’t want to work on your issues. it’s the advanced stance that the former is actually stupid and that people can in fact suffer long term damage into adulthood because of what their parents have done to them and that people who complain can in fact be people who worked long and hard to fix these issues inflicted upon them by their parents. venting here is simply a means to let out emotional upset and digest your feelings while pointing out a common issue in society (parents abusing/neglecting their children and walking away scot free). She’s returning to the archaic standpoint that still enjoys prominence in society while pretending it’s a new counter standpoint.

>>820002
I was going to tell you my life story, but fuck that. I'll just say that she's right up to a point. at some point, you have to take responsibility for your own failures and lack of growth. however, formative years might set you up for failure in ways that are difficult to overcome, even well into adulthood. also, a great deal is outside of one's control:

• you might want a job, you might spend dozens of hours filling out applications, but you can't make someone give you a job.
  
• you might want a sexual partner, you might spend dozens of hours and hundreds of dollars trying to court a woman with gifts and attention and whatever, but you can't make her want you.
  
  

the "bootstraps" part is where I put in all the effort to try and earn a better outcome, and the "shit that's out of my control" part is where the world tells me to fuck off despite my best efforts. still, you have to keep trying, because if you don't, you won't even be in a position to get fucking lucky. you miss all the shots you don't take. finally, I'll say that some people had so many cards stacked against them that they were non-starters before they even got a chance to "fail to launch".

I have a neighbor, he's probably in his late 20s now, he just wanders up and down the streets all day and night, high on meth. there's a local dealer he associates with around here. he's dyslexic, he's got ADHD, and all his life his family told him he wouldn't amount to shit. his father was a lecherous drug addled woman beater, and that's what he evolved into as well. his mother isn't much better, she's a lush who smokes like a chimney; both she and this guy are on government assistance, so that's how they afford any sort of lifestyle. this girl might think that he's not a lost cause, but she'd be wrong.

a great deal of one's outcomes can be attributed to luck of the draw, but you have to be there actually drawing cards. although many people exaggerate their woes, there are some out there who I don't blame for not wanting to play the game of life anymore.

>>820014
also, the woman she’s criticizing is correct that if your parents don’t teach you or help you with basic things when you are a minor that this will delay when you are able to accomplish it (generally). I grew up with a single dad with poor hygiene and I only learned proper hygiene at around 19 (that’s not to say I didn’t shower, but there are so many things I overlooked here and didn’t notice until others finally addressed it). My dad also has practically nonexistent social skills which is why I was much behind in my social intelligence. Here I will be accused of not having worked on my social skills and blaming it on my dad, but I spend every day thinking about social skills and trying to improve them as a child, teenager and adult and I was still behind my peers. When I caught up they were already ahead again. I realized it’s because others learned from their parents passively or because they confined in them, while there was nothing to learn from my recluse father who gave advice that was even more behind in social skills than I was at 18. This really handicaps you long term and it’s not because I didn’t work on it.

She is literally correct, and also she's mainly talking about her past, not her present.
>Nooo you didn't hecking earn it the abrahamic neoliberal morality approved way
She has her life together and you don't. Get off your funko pop throne and do all the boring stuff you've been putting off. If that means selling nudes, good. It'll make you less reactionary to know what selling your body feels like.

Post her OF stuff.

It's money laundering. For example, why is Karely Ruiz so coked up? She's the whore of the Cartel del Noroeste; they subscribe to her OnlyFans and give her a cut so they can launder money.

>>820020
Yes. This only thing I'm interested about her.

>>820014
the problem with the parent issue is

1. it is impossible to tell the difference between people who genuinely were abused by their parents and people who lie against their parents without real investigation and real evidence, which most people don't bother to collect because most peole aren't lawyers or judges, they're just gullible and believe whatever they heard first
   
2. people who genuinely were abused can still be pretty obnoxious and self destructive
   
3. people who weren't abused and lie about it can be quite charming and convincing.
   
4. most parents are mediocre and did a mixture of good things and bad things when it came to raising their kids.
   
5. it's really really fucking hard to raise the next generation of people in a society, especially when it's class society that exploits you, poisons you and sabotages you at every turn. yet it's your completely thankless "duty".
   
6. I respect the hell out of child free people. I ended up having a kid but I'm one-and-done. More people should be child free

>>820029
>I ended up having a kid but I'm one-and-don

>>>/pol/

get out tradcon

>>820029
You’re making good points here, and being a parent is definitely hard. It’s just that I grew up with a narcissistic mother (only cares about herself, has photos and even a big poster of herself around her house, never takes accountability no matter how blatantly obvious it is that it was her fault) who physically and verbally abused all of her children and left our family when I was 6 to live like a teenager (traveling and partying all the time). And my dad was an alcoholic who blew up in my face at the smallest grievance, never supported me emotionally growing up, didn’t teach me anything (most importantly social skills) and now where I am an adult he tries to be what he should have been in a subpar manner and denies all the times he yelled at me (which likely caused my anxiety problem that I still have). Not to trauma dump here but my point is since teenage I tried my best to develop properly and ameliorate the damage done to my psyche and social behavior but at the age 30 I still have some of the same problems. I don’t speak about that to people because they just assume I’m offloading all responsibility to my parents and didn’t think to work on myself, when I did that since childhood and my parents are genuinely awful and broken people. And yes I’ve already considered their poor upbringing, it’s just that their bad behavior is still too great to be excused by that. They are weak and selfish people. And if they don’t even acknowledge their wrong doing then they don’t deserve forgiveness.

they hated her because she told them the truth
also yes post her lewds

>>820029
>I respect the hell out of child free people.
Opinion discarded.

>>820061
>i discard the opinion of parents if they so much as respect child free people
yeah you're trolling.
>>820030
do you at least giggle like a ninny when you make replies like this