/lgbt/ - LGBT

I have never loved or been loved, and at this point its more likely to stay that way than not.

I had a fling with a girl and got ghosted we did all the intimate stuff but made me realise women objectify men as much as men objectify them albeit it's less based on looks because I'm not a chad by any means but I was always told it's the woman who wants the relationship but it's the man who just wants the sex, all the romantic stuff just seems like a facade so they don't look like whores and filter toxic gooners, it seems woman want your body and soul even if temporary, not just clinical sex which is the ideal of the male.

I'm dating a beautiful puppy girl. Everyday I feel lucky to get to know her. I feel so lucky she wants me to move in with her. I feel so lucky I can make her feel good so well. I hadn't had much sex before her and had never topped. Yet it all went well
I worry sometimes she's not affectionate but I think she just does it in a different way.

>>3156
My relationships beside her were all kinda sad
- Guy who never did anything with his wife
- another trans woman who wanted me to be a live in maid and screamed at me for not knowing immigration stuff. Left me homeless
- trans girl who didn't know it yet. Her finding out kinda unstablized the feeling of security I really wanted from her. It wasn't that she was wrong to it's just she started questioning the things about her that made me feel safe with her.
Maybe I was a shitty person to all of them, don't know

I wish being a transhumanist wasn't so fucked

I'm not very good at getting to know people in general. Which I really need to work on, because TBH I've derped out in some pretty spectacular ways.

>>3160
I have some lack of empathy for others. IDK how to dissect it further. Maybe I need a therapist, or maybe I need a change to my moral outlook.

>>3162
It's because only low autism score people value sex and relationships highly, they breed more and sooner in common with the beasts, usually higher autism score are more interested in objectivity such as status, politics or thought concepts and other people are seen as vessels to engage in dialectics

>>3163
>other people are seen as vessels to engage in dialectics
i get so incredibly frustrated if a person is unable to be this.

>>3144
>want your body and soul even if temporary
I've heard relations between older women and younger boys is something to the tune of the boys acting like puppies mad for them or risk being abandoned. Don't know if that's what your experience was like, I'm curious really.

>>3157
I'm happy you were that lucky Anon. You sound like you're loving your relation I hope it continues and both you and your puppygirl be happy in it. If you don't mind me asking what's being a transhumanist have to do with your romantic relations?

>>3139
>>3139
I'm almost 30 and never had a boyfriend and had very little sexual encountera

The fact I'm an autist who never worked on his life does not help

>>3144
Are you bi?

>>3203
Same but I'm 32 and joined the military.

I've been talking to someone on tinder but idk I'm worried she's TOO into me.

>>3206
Why join the military?

>>3211
Sapphic?

>>3218
ye

>>3215
Because I was/am a fuck-up and had zero prospects. Dad died a couple years ago so it really made me think about my mortality.
Obviously it was an immoral thing to do and could bite me in the ass but it was the best option I could think of beyond continuing to be a leech.

>>3226
The military won't help you at all. You are just contributing to the regime. Nobody wants to have sex with soldiers. I suggest you rethink your life choices or you will end up dying from an IED planted by the socialist resistance.

>>3228
I want to have sex with soldiers tho. He still shouldn't join the military.

>>3228
Respectfully, you come off as a NEET.

>>3228
Having sex with soldiers = BASED
Having sex with cops = CRINGE

love is so sweet. but im so looooonely

Had sex and didn't enjoy it but I pretended to. She is kind of overweight and boring. Planning to tank the relationship by showing her my unhinged communist fanfics / fiction I write and insisting she read them.

>>3282
>Planning to tank the relationship by showing her my unhinged communist fanfics / fiction I write and insisting she read them.
Why don't you just breakup normally?

>>3282
>unhinged communist fanfics / fiction
Can you share it here? I'm quite curious now.

>>3295
I posted it in the fanfiction thread (this is hatefiction though tbh)

https://archiveofourown.org/works/63403183/chapters/162445723

>>3303
was it you who recommended this series in my rape-porn thread?

>>3304
I didn't, it might have been another thing in the setting (I hate the setting btw)

>>3307
someone rec the setting then called me a paedo without elaborating and left, i read one book and found the setting incredibly boring, there was not even any sex in it.

>>3303
Fascinating to find hdg here

>>3139
How do you get over them? I still keep thinking of her. It wasn't meant to be. Yet it still hurts. I still can't move on. How many days do you have to be like this? How do you get over it quickest?

why do i develop infatuations with straight-ish transfems
what kind of sickness is it

>>3139
>Now focusing on friends, making and deepening them.
Good. This is the way.
>Wish I had a [person] I understood and was understood by
Everyone who has ever wanted a relationship basically wanted this. Not to minimize you, just so you know your experience is relatively universal and what you're feeling is very normal for better or for worse.

I dont know if im meant to experience love.
The idea of love sounds great to me, but in all of the few times anyone took romantic interest in me I just felt uncomfortable and wanted to be left alone.
Social interaction is just so stressful and draining for me, but espcially so if its romantic.
I feel so jealous seeing other people with boyfriends and enjoying having a relationship, I wish I could experience that same happiness but I just cant do it. Whats wrong with me?

>>3751
I dunno, we want what we can't have? For me it's lesbians.
>>3753
>Whats wrong with me?
Judging from that little passage. Nothing major, we all have that or something similar. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedgehog%27s_dilemma for example.
In the specific case, maybe you just didn't like them back?

>>3455
If there was some special technique it would be known.
It gets better with time, and that's just how it is.

>>3760
>In the specific case, maybe you just didn't like them back?
It wasnt just one case, its happened multiple times. I wouldnt say I didnt like any of them, I liked most of them as a person or as a friend but not in a romantic sense.
I dont think ive truly romanitcally liked anyone before. I definitley experience attraction to people, but never a romantic crush

i keep waking up needing you
its not realistic so im just hoping it stops one day

same here
except i hope you're alright and get back in touch every day

>>3768
So let me get this straight, you:
>like the idea of love
and
>feel jealous of others' relationships

but you also
>get drained rapidly by social interaction
and
>never liked anyone romantically

Maybe you enjoy thinking and fantasizing more about a romantic relation than actually being in one? Like some people might fantasize about fighting or being an explorer than actually going through the risks and hardship those would entail. No offense intended, you're far from the only person who (might) do this.

>>3814
OP here. It's better now, I don't think about her nearly as much. If I could go back and do it better, sure. But I didn't lose much special.
Mind I ask your story anon?

>>3455
Force yourself to have sex with someone else. I've been through this recently and it's as disgustingly simple as that. The body leads and the heart follows

>>3768
Romance as a special category of socializing is bullshit and worthless. The only quintessentially romantic thing is enmeshment and mutual idealization. These are harmful. Ask yourself if you enjoy/are relaxed in their presence, and if you have good sexual chemistry (literally chemistry, like u enjoy how they smell and taste and all that). If these are both yes, you've found a winner. They check the fundamental boxes. Everything else is negotiations.

I say negotiations because including someone in your life means re-arranging your life a little to make space for them.

Based on your situation there are certain considerations. There are essentially 4 positions. 1: you both have full lives, but you need someone to fuck. This relationship is mainly about sexual chemistry and basic trust. You don't need to love who they are as a person or match them in everything. Your lives intersect minimally, where necessary. You may grow to love them or share more in common with them over time but that isn't necessary. 2 and 3: one of you has a life and the other is kind of a loser. The one with a life gatekeeps and focuses on not losing their center (i.e. not losing what makes them valuable in the first place, which is their self-completeness), and the other one chases and attempts to demonstrate value while weaseling into the other's life more and more. Figure out which one you are and act accordingly. 4: you both have no life. This is perfect for Romance. Success in this configuration requires similar interests, experiences, personalities, etc. Maybe triggering each other's childhood wounds and broken sense of what love is. You are each other's soulmates, it is fated love, etc. You both have nothing else going on, so you can make each other your whole world.

If you're politically active that basically already puts you in the "has a life" category so you should look for either someone who minimally enters your life, or someone who totally worships you, spends money on you, makes you laugh, makes you orgasm, generally makes your life easier and more fun (while not gumming up the works and making you focus too much on them!), etc.

I found myself in a relationship that started strong only for it to go straight to shit after 3 years. It started after we went a full year with no sex it was then that he revealed that he wasn't gay but asexual the entire time, now I had my suspicions since he didnt like any anal or oral but I let it slide since I was a virgin when we met and was naive, when the fighting stopped after that bombshell we broke up only for covid to hit a week later and for him to loose his job.
Now I don't work as I'm doctor diagnosed autistic and he said that I was never to look for work since he wanted to take care of me. This started an extremely fucked situation since now with my limited tismbux I had to help him until he found work and since the apartment was in my name so if he didn't have any money left he would be homeless (I can't cover his food expenses or phone bill) but even though I was seething with hate over being lied too I didn't want to betray my morals and just throw him into the capitalist death machine so I helped him and now he has a job he likes and we are friends and he takes care of me as we got over our differences since.
Now I'm still a socially retarded mess but stable in life, so in a few months time after that I ended up finding someone else but now it's long distance….but when he came up here to Canada all the way from the states to pound my small pale emo "these scars are proof I'm alive" snow bunny butt in the first time in my life while I wore a kitty maid outfit it was the best time in my life and even though I now only get sex once a year and only see him in person once a year I'm still happy and my ex turned friend enjoys the new dynamic since he can take care of me and himself money wise and he and I like our friendship more though he wants the three of us living together that I find a little weird. The distance sucks and I do get depressed because of it but I can't see myself ever being disloyal it's not in my blood I suppose.
I hope one day he does move up here. Relationships are chaotic…and I guess it's really never known where one can end up.

>>4049
Why would you get angry at him for being asexual though? Especially when he was willing to do sex acts with you. Seems like a weird thing to break up with someone about.

>>3812
i want you to groom me
i want you to make me your mess

my oneitis crush has problems and i cant trust her anymore

>>5326
and yet, i still love her

>>4171
Yes king

>>4049
That's a wild turn of events but kinda sounds like it worked out in the end. Congrats on finding a top to come breed your bussy.

Still here, still 33, still no bf.
I'm my own worst enemy because I'm too scared to put myself out there.

I think the girl I like just gave me the clap or gonorrhea but honestly I feel like it's my foult for going raw and not taking the doxypep I literally just bought to prevent this exact situation
anyway rn I only have some very balanitis so I'm mostly just sad I wont be able to have le sex n such

Bumping a gem

>>5331
Damn me from almost a year ago
Went on grindr and found a guy, he's very sweet
Unfortunately I'm gonna be leaving in a couple months because of work but I'm gonna treasure the time we have

>>8051
That's cute. Happy for you.
Do you have any more experience with LGBTQ apps/sites? Like which are good vs not?

op really tried to make it a healthier thread than the sex and relationships one on siberia and it still ended up just being a queer incel thread

>>8053
Oh it's still nowhere near at /siberia/ level…
Or you simply didn't expect single people to make up the majority of posts in threads like these by rule? I'd say it's just a statistical likelihood. Could be a women only or lesbian only one and it would probably still be the case.

People keep thinking that me and my roommate are gay even though we are not! Just because we sleep in the same room together doesn’t mean we are gay, if we were then we would sleep in the same bed like Ren and Stimpy but we don’t! We sleep in two twin sized beds that are next to each other.

>>8052
No lol. I used grindr because it was popular. Someone (I think it was the gaygen here) told me to use grindrplus which bypasses the microtransaction bullshit. Vanilla grindr is terrible.

>>8051
Can't you make it work out as a LDR? Maybe with VR?
>>8062
>Someone (I think it was the gaygen here) told me to use grindrplus
I am glad you found it useful. The other day I installed in waydroid but now they ask for phone verification so fuck it
>>8059
I wish I had a closeted roommate relationship :(

>>8064
It’s not always what it is cracked up to be

>>8051
>Damn me from almost a year ago
It has been 4 months

Is it normal to be sad about a girl I was normal young transbian friends with if she said she was gonna come to my birthday party and then just kind of didn't show up and I haven't heard from her at all since then? She was gonna come by with her girlfriend and her girlfriend's wife because I'm also pretty good friends with them, but only the two of them showed up. It's been like four days and I'm sad, yesterday I sent a "hey how're you doing" text and she hasn't responded, am I gonna die? Is there something deeply wrong with me? Am I internally freaking out a little over absolutely nothing?

>>3139
>That is part of the whole LGBT experience besides the sex and gender.
could've fooled me haha :'^)

>>8088
It is normal in general to be sad when a friend ditches and ghosts you, yes.
I had a friend I hung out with regularly for a year who just started ghosting me out of the blue. No arguments or anything, he just stopped responding to me and hasn't reached out at all. It's fucked me up, I keep telling myself to stop thinking about it but it doesn't work. These kinds of things just happen unfortunately. And I have done it to others a couple times, but in my case I was depressed and didn't want to see anyone (I don't think that's the case with my friend, I think he just found other people he likes more).

>>8088
>>8092
Anyways, what I'm saying is that sometimes people just don't want to see you anymore and you have to get over it. Easier said than done obviously. You just have to find other people and hope they're less shitty. I have other friends and a BF thankfully. It's good to have more than one friend, if you become too dependent on one person then if they let you down it'll fuck you up.

First came out to my parents at 13. But they thought I was """confused""" - as if I was destined to become a hetfoid or something

>>8095
You are a trans man? That is unexpected.

>>8095
you should family-cuck them by getting a gf with a woke family and start calling her parents yours, and telling your parents how much better parents they are