lefty gay general - boyfriend edition
How do we feel about our bfs /lgbt/? I love mine lots and lots and can't wait till he gets home from work personally.
>>732Was in a relationship for nearly a decade. Broke up two years ago.
Started dating a guy recently. I'm kinda crushing on him. But idk, it seems mutual when we're together, but not when we're apart, so I think the best is to let him pursue the relationship further if he actually wants to keep seeing me. Maybe he wants to take things slow, idk. I can't be playing these games.
>>732Gaygen thoughts on gay misandrist???
Also gay misandrist are you here????
>>794I guess I'm expecting him to initiate things reciprocally. I invited him last time, I expect him to invite me this time. He just doesn't send me too many messages via WhatsApp. He isn't that present online in general. Sometimes responding hours later. Which is fine in general. I don't really like texting too much. I feel a bit clingy and needy, but a hello once every couple of days to keep things alive would be nice!
He just broke up with his ex and is still getting over him, which is obviously not ideal but I like this guy and he's hot. I just don't get what he expects. If it were up to me, I'd like to see him at least once a week. Do not that we've only started seeing each other, we have only 6 dates.
Today I kinda fucked up. He finally initiated conversation after a week. I told him to let me know if and when he wants to meet up. I didn't want to impose, so I kinda left it open. But he responded like "wtf? What do you mean if I want to meet up. I do want to see you. Why do you think I don't". So I sent him a video note saying that I didn't really understand him through text, and that since he wants to see me then we should meet up and I'd be very happy to.
It was a bit awkward. Idk. I'm going to have to talk to him soon and explain that I don't feel attended to by him via text, that I feel a bit of distance and I need time to get used to his texting style.
>>836>twink>femboythat's just kid
most people who use those word now are referring to /GET/ shit.
>>874iktf
do you have plans to move in together?
>>732Sick of being lonely and sexless
Being a mid looking mentally ill dicklet is a death sentence to your sex life
>>1311Sperg + I don't openly act gay (I have a pretty mild personality, and people treat you differently when they know you're gay which I don't like).
So I'm not actively seeking people out and they're not actively seeking me out.
>>1320>>1497Irony is, most gay sex is usually just cishet or cisbi guys looking to let off steam.
Most actual gay dudes have less sex.
>>1954(Not who you are replying to)
Once like a month ago or so I became so desperate I installed a modded Grindr (so I didn't have shitty ads) to try and my city is pretty small and there was just like one guy searching for something romantic and he was +10yr my age and the rest were searching for sex (me too but also for a bf like everything except a friend) and most picless and I ended up uninstalling it, and like I don't think I could find a boyfriend in any dating app because he would refuse to install a dating app, where else am I left to find a boyfriend online? (genuine question) and even if I found one it would probably be from another country, I think I could deal with a LR but I don't know if I could stand it for life, because I also hate trips and I would not move for him.
But I want a boyfriend so badly…
>>2031Brehhhh. Jealous rn. Good for you.
>>1529Wish list
>twink (thin, twunk OK, kinda fem, fair featured)>preferably >25 years old, closer to 30 even better>has stable job (just not on the brink of absolute poverty)>has stable housing (not on the brink of homelessness)>not crazy>not a drug addict (doing drugs is ok, just not an addict)>cool and nice to hang out with>not an exclusive top (verse, bottom, side, all OK)>not long distance>likes meI don't even care if he wants open or closed relationship. I don't care if he's politically active or aware. I don't care about dick size or shape. Don't care about performance in bed either.
I'm not asking much. I'm hot enough. I was dating someone that fit almost all of this, but he didn't like me back enough and it fizzled out. Back to square one 😢
>>836>normal females don't make me feel much anymore>twinks, and femboys on the other hand watching pornography of them or just seeing them act flamboyant makes me get an erection or leak pre a bitwell that's it, i guess i'm no longer straight, what a bummer
how you do fellow homos
>>2062But twink death is real, its just what testosterone naturally does to the body.
Im terrified of hitting twink death, thinking about it makes me want to cry. Denying that twink death exists isnt gonna prevent it from happening though.
>>2062As
>>2081 said, twink death is real, there may exist some shorter guys who for some reason have lower testosterone and look younger at their 30s, but even they are different from (real) twinks
>>2081The big thing is just keeping your hair.
Everything else is easily maintainable for a good amount of time.
>>2140Well in that case, I can understand what you mean, and even agree to some extent.
These ephebophiliacs have a very inaccurate idea of both younger men and older men for that matter. Not all youngsters are cute or bottoms, nor are all older men uglier or tops. Frankly – like the bottom/top dichotomy – this seems like an inheritance from heterosexual norms. Older men (are supposed to) look for younger women, while young women are supposed to shack-up with men old enough to be their fathers.
Regardless, most of the people perpetuating this idea are either too young themselves, critically online basement dwellers or motherfuckers who seriously overestimate their own attractiveness.
>>2229If exclusively his feminine qualities would bewitch your heart , full of sorrow may it all be if you both age up.
I guess, in the union of love, the lovers share a mutual dependency which they previously didn't 'realize' , an abstract yet a sensed power- and I hope in your situation it'd be everlasting
>>2271>>2081Methinks testosterone is an overused scapegoat for twink death. Like even if femboys had zero T, aging will still make them lose their looks.
Also, most IRL femboys look kinda weird.
Not ugly, but kinda weird.
I guess it's because they tend to dress too girly at times
And irony is we have tomboys who would pass for femboys
>>2679>Opinion ignoredthere was no opinion in the first
but you post beforehand already didn't made since youre defending socdem loli/shotafags from twitter
>>2684I dont follow into your political gossiping over "socdem/tankie/anarkiddie" or whatever.
And defending what?
You getting butthurt over some loli/shota?
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Anyone here interested in BL? I've read a few, quite liked Our Dining Table. It's the sheer amount of teen characters and high-school settings that irk me. Guess I shouldn't have expected much else out of Japanese works. Maybe I'll try reading manhua or manhwa.
>>2292At the end of the day you do have to consider what image your body and clothes can project, not just what you want to project. Gross dissonance between how you come off and what you think you come off as is very uncanny, see non-passing MtFs.
>>2731Gay men are not one bit more paedophilic than straight men.
I don't know why people think straight and gay men are so different when it's just the exact same male sexuality focused on different genders + gay men conforming less to gender roles.
>>2731>Liking femboys means you're a pedophile Let's be honest. Are you afraid of being seen as too old to be attractive?
Im starting to notice that a lot of mindless liberal misused of the "pedophilia" is often lobbed against liking anything cutesy.
And a lot of people who use it are often insecure needy people who never achieved much in their prime years.
>>2730Got to do the best with what you have no?
>>2749>And a lot of people who use it are often insecure needy people who never achieved much in their prime years.So like fat women and body positivity? It does make some sense, if you're too insecure about your age you'd berate those who do like youth. Furthermore, I'd be hard-pressed to call femboys "
pedos" in the first place, so many of them are so anime-y they don't even look that human in the first place, that and a lot of young men do not look traditionally twink-ish or femboy-ish imo. Just young and masculine I guess.
>>2763>So like fat women and body positivity? It does make some sense, if you're too insecure about your age you'd berate those who do like youth. Yep. "Body positivity" is just tall poppy syndrome.
Irony is, a lot of those in "body positivity" would mock/patronize cishet males for any bodily flaws.
Actually, they would more bully each other indirectly.
The people who complain about hebe-centrism usually are the ones who are look down on youthful features and prioritize older looking features as "mature". They don't even care about "maturity" beyond looks and fashion.
Alot of them are usually dysfunctional and are stuck in dead jobs and are resentful.of younger people who have higher stations/standards than them.
They hate precocious behavior in children.
>Furthermore, I'd be hard-pressed to call femboys "pedos" in the first place, so many of them are so anime-y they don't even look that human in the first place, that and a lot of young men do not look traditionally twink-ish or femboy-ish imo. Just young and masculine I guess.Exactly. I fucking hate how modern culture comically portrays male physiognomy as either bears or twinks with no in-between.
Most young and early middle aged men would look more like shonen characters in Naruto or Bleach.
Also pic related is hot.
Whose the cutie and the artist?
>>2763>Got to do the best with what you have no?Yeah well I just lean in to the masculine presentation since I could really go either way personality wise but physically it suits me.
>I'd be hard-pressed to call femboys "pedos" in the first place, so many of them are so anime-y they don't even look that human in the first placeFemboy aesthetics definitely lean a bit into ageplay. You've got a lot who collect plushies, love kids cartoons and own related merch, lean heavily into sexualized innocence/youth and cuteness, etc. At least this is what my bf is like and a lot of other guys I've seen on social media. But honestly the decisive factor here is whether they're a legal adult with basic cognitive faculties, i.e. can they properly consent. If they can then it's not pedophilia by definition, and getting angry about it is just people seething about liking things that they don't like. People constantly fetishize and sexualize things that are rightfully considered unacceptable if done in real life, but are often done performatively as sex between consenting adults. Think about shit like CNC, faux incest, pet play, slave/master stuff, etc. If you're going to get mad that people like cute, young looking femboys then you might as well get mad at anything non-vanilla because most of it would be pretty fucked up if done outside a controlled, consensual, and fictional setting.
>>2768>>2769This is something most people are too pussy to admit because it would considered chauvinistic.
We need to stop coddling insecure men into transitioning to feel better about themselves.
I also think that the girly clothes used by trans women and crossdressing males is overkill. Most cis women don't dress like that unless for prom.
I think some trans women want to "compete" with cis women and then cry about TERFism.
They're just as petty as TERFs.
I would like to see trans women who would be willing to still dress male or at least androgynous without needing so much make up.
Enough chit-chatter about trains. There's something that's been on my mind. I've heard there's a someone for everyone, basically every body-type has its fans. Muscular, short, tan, etc. I hope it's true, everyone deserves to have someone who likes them physically. Though admittedly some body-types are going to have considerably more enjoyers than others. Personally I don't know how many people like the shorter, scrawny look; but hey won't know for certain 'till I put myself out there.
>>2764Artist is kuroh.shiro he's (?) got an insta page and a cara page but sadly the art I posted is not there. Shame, he's got other art of cute boys and while not bad they're hardly anything to appreciate.
>>2793I don't know if I like it or envy it, like being nostalgic for the body I had when I was 15 years old, last year there was one guy in another class who was 18yrs old but was very short and his face looked 13-14, this year there is one who is also like that but he is 16. I envy them a lot, I find their type is cute and good-looking but I don't know if it is a turn-on/attractive, it would feel paedophilic.
Does anyone else have a problem not really differentiating what they want for themselves and what they want on another guy?
>>2795>9 inches / 23 cm>half the weightPure sexo. Congratulations on catching him lad.
I can see where you're cumming from with the body type observation, I've always thought of twinks face-first, body-second. But I guess there is an influence by the body on whether one's seen as a twink or not.
>>2797I think the pedophilia accusation comes mainly from the age disparity. A 19 year old dating a 17 year old might not raise many glance, a 25 year old dating a 17 might. If that's the case for you. Join the club lad (╯︵╰,)
>I find their type is cute and good-looking but I don't know if it is a turn-on/attractiveWell that varies by guy, I assume? Some might be attracted to older men, some to bodybuilders, some to other twinks. I imagine it's a question of getting to know them, even then they could make an exception. Sorry for the not-answer.
>Does anyone else have a problem not really differentiating what they want for themselves and what they want on another guy?The "
do I want him or do I want his body" problem. I've had that problem in the past. I frankly got too busy to really care, and my preferences expanded. Or maybe I gave in to despair, hell I'm still considering
taking E. I'd recommend going out there, experiencing the world as you can and see how your ambitions and preferences change, if they change.
Personally, I'd like to be a femme 4 femme. I haven't heard much about these relations. Maybe femmes shack up, transition, or stop looking entirely.
>>2848I beg to differ. If they aren't interested in women, they could be considered gay.
By your definition, all girls who specifically like butches are not gay
>>2853I agree. Thanks for underlining my point?
>>2858Notice how I didn't mention sissies, fairies, or any other form of femme men. Only 'femboys'. And strictly chasing only them at that.
Not that it matters: the proof is in the pudding. Chasers barely if at all engage with queer culture, let alone the community. They just want to fuck petite girls with a dick.
Also, it's crazy that you try to represent the many wonderful flavors of butch lesbos as the gender inverted equivalent of femboys. Guess it supports my previous point.
>>2873Call them a good boy and see how they react
Note: only works on bottoms
>>2875It would work on me.
t. Service top
Thread's opinion on posting gay art / yaoi here? Including photos. I figure rule standards must be similar to /siberia/.
>>2872Sadly, I'd say lucky enough to
not date either one.
I don't think I've heard of a romantic relation with a femboy that didn't either end in flames or made it past twink-death. And from personal experiences, interactions with femboys haven't been all that pleasant.
Won't even go into the shitshow that "sissies" are.
>>2873Tried cruising on a rock bar. Didn't work,
hope I'm not too ugly.
Perhaps a rainbow bracelet or or wristband? Might be a bit more difficult but incorporating interlocking mars signs ⚣ into jewelry or clothes might work too.
>>2875>Note: only works on bottomsWorth a cum-shot on tops no?
>>2890Chasers might be involved but I think it's also a cope for people who don't take care of themselves and blame age.
I know dudes who look amazing in their 30s but also dudes who smoke/drink themselves to death and look like total garbage.
>>2907This. I cannot express how annoyed I feel when people say "I don't look thirty" just because I still have youthful looks.
Like bruh, there's not much physiognomical difference between twenty and thirty.
People expect thirty to be the start of senescence due to using Anglos as the standard of physiognomy and their culture of mediocrity.
If you go to Latin America, Africa, or even SEA, people remain good looking all the way until their sixties.
>>2909Stop whining.
This anti-femboy rhetoric is just tall poppy syndrome at this point.
You wouldn't do this with bears or trans ladies.
>>2890Actually, they use thirty-five as the final age, not twenty-five.
Also, femboys can still look good past that age
>>2861>Notice how I didn't mention sissies, fairies, or any other form of femme men. Only 'femboys'. And strictly chasing only them at that. Not that it matters: the proof is in the pudding. Chasers barely if at all engage with queer culture, let alone the community. They just want to fuck petite girls with a dick.
>Also, it's crazy that you try to represent the many wonderful flavors of butch lesbos as the gender inverted equivalent of femboys. Guess it supports my previous point.Sissies, butches, bears, and trans ladies also have chasers that want a specific physiognomic type.
To say there isn't a diversity of femboys types while saying there are for butches is hypocritical
Sounds to me you just hate femboys.
>>2926As do femboys.
Trans ladies are a minority though compared to bears
>>2731>fem>BoyIt's was for just shit like astolfo and slang for some trans discord users to use
then most shotafags uses the slang fem
boy as a another word for shotacon and shit like the
size difference tag for oneshota now
In the same way bestiality/zoo furfags uses the term "feral" for non-anthro/bestiality porn
it's too the point where shotafags aged down astolfo (the OG femqueer himself).
>>3150I am not capable of growing that much hair.
I have gone long periods without shaving and I can't grow a beard or a real mustache, and my chest hair is just a bit at the top (very thin or non-existent everywhere else). It's either I shave or I look like shit.
32 btw.
>>3191Imo, people who whine about friend zoning are kinda entitled
>>866Sounds like someone is jealous
>>3202Older people are not as "giving no fucks" as they claim.
If they were, they would not complain so much about being single and society being "youth oriented".
People who do give less fucks as they get older are often those who had their fill of life or those who truly are just enjoying life casually.
>>3150>Excessive body hairNot even once
His body shape hasn't changed much tho
>>3335>"that's just kid">"those are referring to kids">"Sounds like someone is jealous">jealousEw, with what.
Also why do you want do be chased down by vatican priests.
>>3387>youngand shotafags will still use that slang for anyone underage.
most none IRL examples and anime/animation/comics/video game characters are just being any underage male instead of any bunny.
it's no different when lolifags uses the word brat from time to time for awhile.
>>3393unless you never been to twitter or discord, /a/ or /lgbt/ on much more popular imageboards then no.
>>3394tell that to shotafags
>>2919>other groups have chasers tooThis line of thinking would only be relevant if I, as you claim, hate femboys. I don't. I hate their chasers. That has been my entire sentiment from the drop: distaste for people who obsess over femboys. Which I do, not just because it is pathethic behaviour, nor because this kind of person leeches of an already strained culture, but also because it, precisely, reduces 'femboy' to a narrow, individualized concept.
A pluriform femboy culture is immaterial there (though we are assuredly using different definitions and so the point is moot anyway). Not that I argued that. What I did argue is that "butch lesbian" is not the gender inverse of "femboy": a blatant categorical error on your part.
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