From now on I will be merging any relevant threads about these topics into this general unless there is a very unique spin on them that makes them deserving of an independent thread. While these conversations can be valuable they also have had a tendency to proliferate. Please try to stay positive in this thread if at all possible and to be kind to your fellow users. Sharing advice is better than just attacking each other. Thanks a lot.
Obviously you can also use this thread for asking general questions about the topic.
552 posts and 108 image replies omitted.>>7110I mean boners are somewhat indicative of your overall cardiovascular health. Viagra started as a heart medication before they realized how well it corrected ED. As far as the protein is considered, I noticed somewhat recently I wasn't eating much protein at the same time when I had some mild ED. Since then I make sure that I get enough and I haven't had any issues since then.
>>7112> I'm definitely not mad at men for being sexually attracted to me, I'd just like to know them better before anything happens because of risks like STDs, the side effects of birth control, and potential unplanned pregnancy, and a long term relationship would be best for my mental stability. Like do you not think about that stuff with women?Probably more than I should.
>I don't understand how I've upset youDidn't upset me sorry for coming off that way.
I dunno I wouldn't say it's even creepy. Not really just you, just how much some women always try to characterize man as a bunch of lecherous horndogs when women do all that same shit. Not saying that's you per se if you're not being hypocritical.
It's good that you have your own standards and you stick to them.
>>7117I mean if you say so. I'm curious what kind of guy you think is average then? Could you post some pictures of what you think is average?
Ok advice for the femanon looking for a bf, I guess the same as I give to guys here:
Try meeting guys through mutual acquaintances and social groups and what not instead of online dating.
My main criteria for dating is does this person make me feel better or worse? If it's worse I move on. I have no problem being alone. I'm often way to forgiving and overlooking of redflags with friends and dating. But then the shit piles up to the point where I have to cut them off.
I guess that's not really your issue because it sounds like you just fail to make a connection at all. Anything else about the conversations besides 'they get sexual to early' or 'flake on you?' I dunno what to comment on those because I've never done those myself.
>>7118Also L-Arginine is a amino acid that deals with effective blood flow.
>>7123Bruh is definitely above average lol.
>>7123Fuck if I keep seeing shit like this I'm gonna do an Elliot Rodgers. It's genuinely dangerous posting stuff like this.
>>7128They're completely off the mark with that one lol. Only average guys are these two potatoe face four eyes
>>7125>>7126And even then they're above average in some ways because their hairline isn't too terrible and they have good teeth and decent features.
>>7125Kinda look like right dude, my eyes are brown though.
>>7123nvm the other comments I made, your problem is your unreasonably high standard, this dude could fuck every weekend by just using tinder. This man could probably fuck the hottest woman in my city if he wanted to. Do you realise this man will not settle for someone who can't even hold a conversation right? I don't settle for that
>>7133>>7128Wasnt posted by femanon.
>>7135When you're blasted out of your mind on captagon he's a 9.
>>7126>>7125>>7135Ok so the average guy is just fat? I've never been overweight or fat my entire life I work out all week and certain people here are saying that my only option to be successful in dating at this point is to lower my standards and date fat men? Man, coming here did not make me feel better I feel like necking after this tbh. If the best I can do after putting in all this work to be healthy is to get a fat boyfriend I will literally kill myself. Do you guys really think the only guys interested in dating me are fatter than me? Is there a country i can move where this isn't the case? I'm not fat and I've never been fat, in fact I even have an eating disorder I've mostly recovered from
>>7137calm down, that was just a joke lmao
>>7137I dunno, make an onlyfans, maybe you'll get some marriage proposals.
>>7137We have already established your problem is autism, not lack of attractiveness.
>>7137Here's some options
<Go to gym and try to find a slab-of-muscle dude without narcissistic tendencies;<Try dating outside you ethnicity, i.e. find a non-white guy with good health and physique + personality;<A chubby guy with morale enough to improve himself, you just need to gently push him in the right direction.Or you can choose to neck yourself.
>>7137I would say, if your standard is this man
>>7123then yes. You don't have to date fat people, but realize the country you live in and that you might have an unrealistic standard, even moreso if you are autistic
Or you could move to south/central america, plenty of men willing to put up with your autism, and force you to interact, not fat either
>>7121> Anything else about the conversations besides 'they get sexual to early' or 'flake on you?'Maybe I only talk about boring stuff, usually science or history-related things? And a lot of the time music as well. I don't know, the longest I've taken to respond was like 2-4 days and a couple times a week or so but I was extremely busy and stressed, I try to respond on time and everything and arrange some sort of meet up before we text too much. But I've also done it the other way and just kept talking to them waiting for them to ask me out and 99% of the time it never happens. It happened once with a guy but on our date (literally the first date I've ever been on) I realized he was a lot farther along on the autism spectrum than me and I just stopped liking him after that
>>7139>>7141Reasons why I will not do this and why a lot of women also haven't done this:
1) Onlyfans can ruin your career, it can legitimately get you fired from your job, and I'm trying to go into academia in my field so this is a terrible idea.
2) I have a lot of body issues, I don't like looking at myself naked a lot of the time, so this would be a nightmarish money-making idea for me.
3) There are a ton of other jobs/opportunities and ways to make money that I could do where I feel like I am contributing something to society and having fun and learning something.
>>7142So why I am not at the level of a man who is also not fat and is fit? I thought with dating you were supposed to expect what you put into yourself, if those are my options then yeah I'll neck myself. And there are literally plenty of men at the gym who are cool, I know a million of them who are in happy long-term relationships with my friends. This is just you stereotyping people because you've never left your coomer cave
>>7143Is there a country I could move to where I could date a non-fat redhead or blonde? Just not attracted to the guys in either of those pictures and south americans don't have cool hair. It's not necessarily a race thing I'd go out with a Melanesian guy or a black ginger too, I had a huge crush on a guy like that as a kid
>>7137Remind me why we simp so hard for femanons again? Junko, Bee, S poster, this bitch. They're all so insufferable and mentally ill. Very negative people.
>>7144>And there are literally plenty of men at the gym who are cool, I know a million of them who are in happy long-term relationships with my friendsThen you already have your answer.
Also, no need to lash out, I didn't put the last line actually meaning it.
>>7144>Maybe I only talk about boring stuff, usually science or history-related things? And a lot of the time music as well. You know a lot of people will humor you talking endlessly indepth about random bullshit just to be polite or because they want something else from you. Actually you probably don't because you're autistic. Some funny meme I saw before about autistic guys reciting trivia like they're that guy from the book of Eli who memorized the bible. But yeah autismos do this a lot.
DON'T Stop monologuing. Stop even pseudo-dialoging where the other person is just way more sociable and just humoring you. Find some topic you both are actually interested in or at least talk about personal things than random bullshit. Asking questions is even better.
> It happened once with a guy but on our date (literally the first date I've ever been on) I realized he was a lot farther along on the autism spectrum than me and I just stopped liking him after thatSo you're just waiting for the guy who's the right blend of autism or some non autistic guy that wants to put up with you for some reason?
I was just fucking around about the onlyfans thing.
>>7144>have to be blond/redhead>not fat>willing to put up with autism>have to accept your totally not racist preference>have to put up with response times 2-4 times a week>Have to always be talking about history and the music you like>also can't have more autism himself (even though you ask people to date you)I can see your problem pretty easily, this man simply does not exist, if you keep these insane requirements you will be alone forever.
>women would rather kill themselves than date a slightly overweight man like myself
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>>7149I already told you incels. Don't be fat. Don't be broke. These two are in your power at least. If you can't even pass those two you should give up.
>>7146Sorry I'm usually really good at sarcasm but when it comes to dating or fat people as you can see in this thread I get kinda hyper-sensitive
>>7147Ok this seems like good advice. I don't want to date another autist I hate my disorder if I have kids and they inherit it I'll never forgive myself
>>7148I mean these are all rough requirements tbh, the main one is just do not be fat, boring, or look like steve buscemi, the guys I talked about earlier who ghosted me didn't meet all of the things you've put here and I'm pretty sure they thought I was normal until I said the wrong thing and they could sense the autism
>>7149>womenYou mean "thin women". Most overweight/obese women will date you I wouldn't give up over my ridiculous eating disorder/mental health issues. But I also think most thin women won't date a fatter guy, it's the same in reverse except in areas where women outnumber men or men outnumber women and people of the opposite sex are more desperate than usual, it's just life unfortunately, we have to improve ourselves first
>>7150Fat women have no problem getting boyfriends. Broke women have no problem getting boyfriends.
>>7150The only true criteria is "don't broke", even well-off fat guys can score good.
>inb4 those are trophy wives, not true bonding hurr durrThen it's to judgement who's using who: the fat bastard or the broke slut.
>>7149>>7152Again, sorry for making you feel bad, you really shouldn't extend what I think to the rest of the female population. The chad stuff is a myth and I tend to see like find like around here. I will say that if you want to get into fitness skip cardio completely and go straight into lifting, not to transform your body but to transform your mood. I would recommend moving to an area with a more favorable gender ratio if you can, too
>>7154It's OKay. I think I'm just going to overdose on tramadol instead but thank you for the advice :)
>>7151>being triggered by fat peopleDo you live in the US?
>>7151>Ok this seems like good advice.To elaborate for you more. Talk about your past, present, future etc. Anecdotes, personal information, is how someone becomes a fixed entity in your mind. It's way more interesting too imo, why would I want to hear something I could just read in a book or an article by myself, but your lived experience is something that can only be got from you. Then being good at asking your questions and also being, consoling, supportive, etc. will make people like you. Like if someone told you they had this big test or project coming up they were stressing about and you just give them old ganbatte, it will make them happier and also like you more.
>>7151>the main one is just do not be fat, boring, or look like steve buscemiYou will claim this and then straight faced tell me you don't like
>>7143 who is above average, so it's not "people who look like Steve bucemi" don't kid yourself
>>7144> And there are literally plenty of men at the gym who are cool, I know a million of them who are in happy long-term relationships with my friends. This is just you stereotyping people because you've never left your coomer caveWhy aren't you meeting guys through your friends instead of online dating? All the good ones already taken or something?
>>7147>DON'T Stop monologuing.The lack of a dot here confused me for a few seconds.
>>6998>the trick here is hoping everyone else fell for them as wellYou can immediately tell which smokers just smoke and which ones smoke while thinking "GOD DAMMIT I AM SO COOL I AM LIKE THE SECOND COMING OF BILL HICKS LOOK AT ME SQUINT AND SHIT, FUCK, ALL THESE NONSMOKERS AROUND ME ARE SUCH FUCKING CUNTS" and everyone can tell you fall into the second category.
>>7161Very true. There's a level of normalization of the act. Like imagine eating a hotdog for the very first time. Now imagine a man who eats 5 hotdogs a day, every day, for 10 years.
Y’all act like getting a girl is some Herculean task. So many easy girls out there, just go out, bag a hoe and lose your virginity already. Christ.
>>7161Bill Hicks is a pretentious mancunt.
Always whining abput how America is emasculated ust because people dont act like outlaws from cpuntry and western movies.
He unironically wouldve been the face of the alt right movement had he lived another two decades.
Speakimg of which, theres a conspiracy theory saying that Bill Hicks is Alex Jones new thread?
>>7150Incels: women play the dating game on easy mode
Girl: Umm actually, *makes a bunch of points that support the incels points*.
I love dating advice from women.
>>7070If men could just have the privilege of fucking anyone, then most men would be more interested in serious relationships.
In an individual approach to deal with this, maybe put in your bio:
"
TRADE DEAL
I recieve: three lovely dates
You recieve: one sex (after the dates)
"
>>7165Yeah, with the best advice from the thread being in the op, and also an inclusion of the thinking process of each sex/situation.
With that autistic femanon, she highlighted a fair point of thinking, which is:
>chicks follow XYZ standard so it makes sense they'd date someone with standards they want<Doesn't change the fact that those who meet the standard struggle to date or standards being extremely hard to reach like women just think men can just magically be financially doing wellor
>Women want to know the person before even considering sex<despite women being """""""just as""""""" horny as menplus various other stuff
>>7166This is why I advicate for singehood
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