>>7371211) You need to actually ask girls out.
2) You need to recognize your league. If the girls you are going for consistently reject you, you're out of your league. Go for less and less attractive girls until they start responding and showing interest. That is your league. If anyone tells you that there aren't leagues, they're lying because they think that this sort of "nothing is impossible" pep talk makes themselves look better and that being realistic sounds mean.
3) Self-improvement is only a "scam" to an extent. If you're batting way the fuck out of your league, no amount of self-improvement is going to help. Most of the factors that would land you a supermodel are out of your control. But self-improvement is a way to raise your status a bit, and thus your league. You can be as much of a fucking fat, useless slob as you want so long as you don't mind dating she-ogres that are just as bad as you are.