/lgbt/ - LGBT

>>4258
>Mass murder is good actually.
I don't see how that factors into your anti-euthanasia views, but based and left-hand pilled. You should form a dionysian marxist coven.

>>4259
It's only good when my side is doing it. Anyway I wish I could get into the whole mysticalism stuff but I am kind of terminally materialist, I crave to be a magical witch but I can't convince myself any of that stuff is real. Like this is absolutely a good thing but I just can't quite slip off the deep end. I think its just because my experience with life is so wierd anyway. When I close my eyes I see very weird things and I lucid dream almost every night. That all not being real kind of taught me not to hope for things, not to pine for things and just sit daydreaming all the time, but to actually do them. And that also gives me the inspiration for writing (and hopefully like making games or animation if I can ever get skilled enough to do that).

Sorry for blogpoasting >.<

>>4260
Most Crowleyites see themselves as materialist, as they're very results oriented. Personally i would say those things are absolutely real in the marxian sense, because they affect yourself directly, others indirectly and ultimately material reality without requiring the same type of attention as non-magickal practice. The only thing not to do is adopt a magical worldview, using something you made yourself believe for a ritual to reason about material reality. That advice may ring kind of hollow though, as i've only had mild successes with drafting sigils, inducing trances and kind of making myself feel better while on-off practicing for some years :-)

>>4258
You dont pass because you are an idealist.

>>4251
>let's be real. this conversation wouldn't happen without transphobia.
Even in a perfectly tolerant world I would still have crippling dysphoria from not passing.

>>4159
>>4160
Cringe is downstream of narcissism because cringe is the feeling of disgust when your self-image is threatened. People who relate to the world through the narcissistic mode of self-image are much more susceptible to feeling the 'cringe' and obsessing over their self-image so as to not evoke that feeling. The link between self-image and narcissism is one of the most basic concepts in psychoanalysis.

>>4204
Everyone has a self-image and the instinct to preserve it. I guess everybody must be a narcissist then lmao.

Just because self-image is a big part of narcissism doesnt mean that the concept of self-image is inherently linked to narcissism. You clearly get all of your psychology info from social media.

>>4209
Yes, Lacan did claim all Ego is Narcissism.

>>4210
>Lacan said it so its a fact!
Lacan isn't the king of psychology. Most of the shit he said has been discredited and criticized by many

>>4209
Everyone is capable of narcisstic relation, and to some extent everyone is capable of going beyond it too. You are treating narcissist like it's an insult rather than a fact of human psychology.

>>4229
here we go, it was on my e-reader

>>4228
what's even the point of living if i cannot be perfectly beautiful

>>4217
you should not compare yourself to cartoons

>>4228
>>4232
It's not just anime though, The trans characters in live action media are always far more prettier than ill ever be. And those are played by real people.
>>4231
Real
>>4230
thanks

>>4234
>live action media
the amount of editing that goes into that stuff makes it pretty much just a cheap way of doing a cartoon

>>4174
1 i'll be doing injections
2 i'll be reminded of how much trans people hate me every time i do them

>>4146
That is more dihydrotestosterone. You can block that separately. Testosterone would have to be unnaturally high to do that by itself.

>>4173
If it means anything to you anon, I'm a trans woman who does have people who stopped HRT and went back to being cis and/or going back to he/they pronouns.

If your comrades or friends are going to abandon you because you're exploring who you are, and only supported you for being trans- and not a human being first and foremost- then they were never your comrades to begin with.

So long as you fight the good fight, support LGBTQ rights, and aid in our stuggle, you'll be fine.

>>4175
why is it that you believe transgender people hate you

gender as a concept really got people thinking like this. Burn the whole fucking concept at the stake.

I'm not watching a 5 hour video about something boring that barely anyone cares about. Also take your ads elsewhere.

Stupid

It's pretty good but way too long, I've been watching it chapter-by-chapter for weeks and there's still more than a hour left.

I put this on whilst I was at work, and was listening to it a few weeks back in my earbuds - This is… Probably some of the best and most thorough vid I've seen in a long while pertaining to Transphobia and the systemic problems of it.

Great fuckin' vid, bud.

>>3567
>>4165
Post chin

>>3768
So let me get this straight, you:
>like the idea of love
and
>feel jealous of others' relationships

but you also
>get drained rapidly by social interaction
and
>never liked anyone romantically

Maybe you enjoy thinking and fantasizing more about a romantic relation than actually being in one? Like some people might fantasize about fighting or being an explorer than actually going through the risks and hardship those would entail. No offense intended, you're far from the only person who (might) do this.

>>3814
OP here. It's better now, I don't think about her nearly as much. If I could go back and do it better, sure. But I didn't lose much special.
Mind I ask your story anon?

>>3455
Force yourself to have sex with someone else. I've been through this recently and it's as disgustingly simple as that. The body leads and the heart follows

>>3768
Romance as a special category of socializing is bullshit and worthless. The only quintessentially romantic thing is enmeshment and mutual idealization. These are harmful. Ask yourself if you enjoy/are relaxed in their presence, and if you have good sexual chemistry (literally chemistry, like u enjoy how they smell and taste and all that). If these are both yes, you've found a winner. They check the fundamental boxes. Everything else is negotiations.

I say negotiations because including someone in your life means re-arranging your life a little to make space for them.

Based on your situation there are certain considerations. There are essentially 4 positions. 1: you both have full lives, but you need someone to fuck. This relationship is mainly about sexual chemistry and basic trust. You don't need to love who they are as a person or match them in everything. Your lives intersect minimally, where necessary. You may grow to love them or share more in common with them over time but that isn't necessary. 2 and 3: one of you has a life and the other is kind of a loser. The one with a life gatekeeps and focuses on not losing their center (i.e. not losing what makes them valuable in the first place, which is their self-completeness), and the other one chases and attempts to demonstrate value while weaseling into the other's life more and more. Figure out which one you are and act accordingly. 4: you both have no life. This is perfect for Romance. Success in this configuration requires similar interests, experiences, personalities, etc. Maybe triggering each other's childhood wounds and broken sense of what love is. You are each other's soulmates, it is fated love, etc. You both have nothing else going on, so you can make each other your whole world.

If you're politically active that basically already puts you in the "has a life" category so you should look for either someone who minimally enters your life, or someone who totally worships you, spends money on you, makes you laugh, makes you orgasm, generally makes your life easier and more fun (while not gumming up the works and makingPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I found myself in a relationship that started strong only for it to go straight to shit after 3 years. It started after we went a full year with no sex it was then that he revealed that he wasn't gay but asexual the entire time, now I had my suspicions since he didnt like any anal or oral but I let it slide since I was a virgin when we met and was naive, when the fighting stopped after that bombshell we broke up only for covid to hit a week later and for him to loose his job.
Now I don't work as I'm doctor diagnosed autistic and he said that I was never to look for work since he wanted to take care of me. This started an extremely fucked situation since now with my limited tismbux I had to help him until he found work and since the apartment was in my name so if he didn't have any money left he would be homeless (I can't cover his food expenses or phone bill) but even though I was seething with hate over being lied too I didn't want to betray my morals and just throw him into the capitalist death machine so I helped him and now he has a job he likes and we are friends and he takes care of me as we got over our differences since.
Now I'm still a socially retarded mess but stable in life, so in a few months time after that I ended up finding someone else but now it's long distance….but when he came up here to Canada all the way from the states to pound my small pale emo "these scars are proof I'm alive" snow bunny butt in the first time in my life while I wore a kitty maid outfit it was the best time in my life and even though I now only get sex once a year and only see him in person once a year I'm still happy and my ex turned friend enjoys the new dynamic since he can take care of me and himself money wise and he and I like our friendship more though he wants the three of us living together that I find a little weird. The distance sucks and I do get depressed because of it but I can't see myself ever being disloyal it's not in my blood I suppose.
I hope one day he does move up here. Relationships are chaotic…and I guess it's really never known where one can end up.

>>4049
Why would you get angry at him for being asexual though? Especially when he was willing to do sex acts with you. Seems like a weird thing to break up with someone about.

>>3812
i want you to groom me
i want you to make me your mess

>>4005
>You need to get it out of your head that “modern construct” is bashing.

>still can't form a cohesive argument and still has to move the goal posts after being thoroughly BTFO
<Come back when you’ve learned to do more than lame Wikipedia research and playing the homophobe card.
Ok, lad.

Just in case you aren't the dipshit who deleted the posts I replied to, or who got banned, this is what I'm arguing against and what you're defending, lol.
>>3910
>>3911

I doubt a homophobe will have much of a fun time on /lgbt/.

>>4005
That's like saying heterosexual people never existed until industrial capitalism or for matter that "woman" and "man" never existed. Or it's also like saying "Black" or "white" people never existed before colonialism.

Of course, the bourgeois family never existed before industrial capitalism. But queer is a privative defined in terms of exclusion from straight bourgeois society. "Straight" is the social construct. Gay is not.

>>4114
>That's like saying heterosexual people never existed until industrial capitalism
That's true. Before the modern period, European society was much more sexually fluid and there were harsh punishments for sex acts that violated the moral law. Monks would mock 'marry' their cloister brothers while remaining celibate while sodomy was a mortal sin. Pederasty and child sexuality were common. Even then, the Church barely enforced punishments for sodomy until the Crusades, after which pederasty and sodomy became associated with 'Saracens' and Jews. Even the term 'heterosexual' was coined by Victorian sexologists like Krafft-Ebing as the mental disease of "excessive attachment to the opposite sex" way back in the 1880s.

>Or it's also like saying "Black" or "white" people never existed before colonialism.
If you were a Zulu tribesman in the 1600s, would you have identified yourself as a black person? As someone who's skin color was black? Its colonialism and enslavement that opened the door for a common black identity because it ripped enslaved Africans out of their native culture, severing their family ties, severing them from their language and region and placing them in a lower caste called 'black.' Its only through enslavement that people came to be classified according to their skin color and built a shared culture based on the class position they'd been forced into. There were no "black people" before colonialism. People saw themselves as Hausa, Igbo, Zulu etc. they related to their own tribes, languages, and religions, and practically everyone around them had dark skin, so there was no sense of being "black" as some special identifier. In texts written in native African languages like Ge'ez or Hausa, the authors never self identify as black.

>"Straight" is the social construct. Gay is not.
Straight and gay both go together. A straight person is someone who, by definition, is not gay and a gay person is someone who, by definition, is not straight. You can't know one without knowing the other. If queer is defined by exclusion from bourgeois society, then queer is a social construct because its contingent on bourgeois society for it to come into existence in the first place. Like how 'proletarian' is a product of bourgeois society and didn't existPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

the political establishment on both ends have abandonment them. and also, transwomen are smart and cute and so are marxists. check mate liberals

>>3911
That person that you replied to should seriously consider working for Israel. Trans people aren't in camps yet because the hogs at the first stage of genocide, which is incitement of violence. Anybody that argues that the NatCons/fascists don't have explicit genocidal intent against anybody LGBT or that they're being "ironic" is nothing but a right-wing stooge.

How will anybody know you exist without social media?

Just aim for the interpolation of the two. Gender ain't boxes.

>>4137
I want to wear feminine clothes in public too, but I want to do it because I'm out with my boyfriend.
cunt.

>>4138
Gender kinda are boxes though, atleast society treats it like such. Even most of the queer community treats it as such. If I aimed to be both a femboy and a transgirl, then I wouldnt be welcomed in transfem spaces for being a femboy, but I also wouldnt be welcomed in femboy spaces for being a transgirl. I wouldnt fit in anywhere. So im unfortunately forced to choose one.

>>4137
>all boys are masculine! Femboys dont exist
You sound dumb

>>4140
>If I aimed to be both a femboy and a transgirl, then I wouldnt be welcomed in transfem spaces for being a femboy, but I also wouldnt be welcomed in femboy spaces for being a transgirl. I wouldnt fit in anywhere. So im unfortunately forced to choose one.
Sounds like a twitter thing. I've seen people straddle / mix both all the time.
Solution is find healthier spaces, rather than seek conditional acceptance in spaces that require you shatter yourself to fit in. I suggest fedi and the personal websites scene.

>>4141
It seems like almost every community online requires me to shatter myself to fit in. I actually used to be apart of the personal website seen, but its not really a community since theres no way to interact with other people. I havent tried fediverse though

>>2608
Not to be "That Guy"
but the difference between bi and pan is;

pan: you are attracted to people *irregardless* of gender (you don't find gendered traits to be specifically attractive)

bi: you find people attractive *because* of their gender traits, whether it be masc/fem/neutral.

the names for both of them are kind of confusing tbh

>>2146
>how malleable is orientation and gender identity in adulthood?
Yes
We can make everyone queer or bi (etc).
I came to this "LGBT" thing late (like 5 years into adulthood or more, is fuzzy)
So I will not give out marching orders at this time. It certainly is in the realm of possibility.
Whether it should be done, that's a different issue. We need to think about whether we should in addition to if we could.
>>1297
>attraction to cisgender men and women
Sounds nutso.
I am mostly straight. I have of course jacked it to all sort of trans folk (girlish boys, as well, possibly, is fuzzy).

>>3640
>bi: you find people attractive *because* of their gender traits, whether it be masc/fem/neutral
Gendered traits are not that important.
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>>2146
>So how malleable is orientation and gender identity in adulthood? I've heard of HRT changing orientation before

I dont think hrt actually changes orientation. Most examples of it are just straight or gay people becoming bi when they take hrt, but its most likely that they were always bi but just couldnt imagine themselves with both genders until they transitioned into the body they wanted. The only thing hrt is changing is their bodies, not their sexuality.
>>1297
Im pretty sure that it doesnt have anything to do with whether theyre cis or not. Tons of bi people are trans or date trans people

>>1656
based

Probably the hideous, clashing color design on the flag. Most of the tumblrsexuals have terrible flags. Bi Pride flag is the best design (it was designed by a gay man)