>>9906Oh sorry, I didn't see you meant you have no other friends. Well that should make it an even easier decision to leave then!
You can't let your girlfriend tie you down somewhere that you're miserable. You have to make your own choices and she can make hers. Maybe deep down she is happy where she is, some people prefer what they know even if it sucks than trying anything new because they couldn't handle change. You can only offer other people a little leg up in their own lives, you can't totally put yours on hold for them.
As an example, I've been living with my BF for 18 months, we wanted to buy a house together but he hasn't found a job in all this time, and I don't think he's been trying very hard to get one most of the time, whereas I've been working flat out to save up and advance my career. I desperately want to buy a house but he wanted us to wait until he had money coming in so he could go on the mortgage, well, I waited too long already for that to happen, so now I'm just buying a house on my own. He can come and live with me but I'm not going to wait forever just because he wanted to do it together. He doesn't really like the house I've picked either but I love it, and I'm the one paying so I'm going to make the decision. Like I said earlier, even though we love each other, my need to buy a house doesn't mean as much to him as it does to me. His feelings about the house don't matter to me as much as mine do. That's just life. Maybe it will give him an impetus to change, maybe not, either way I have to do what will make ME happy.
People have broken up with me for the same reason, because I wasn't doing what they needed me to do, and of course it was crushing at the time, but you know what? I got better, and it was part of what encouraged me to make changes to get me where I am now.