/lgbt/ - LGBT

>>3279
says the lib

>>3240
she doesnt have a problem with what is going on
>>3279
>quintessential radlib
means evil person

smh

shame on that bitch and shame everyone who yassqueened her to glory

>>4258
>Mass murder is good actually.
I don't see how that factors into your anti-euthanasia views, but based and left-hand pilled. You should form a dionysian marxist coven.

>>4259
It's only good when my side is doing it. Anyway I wish I could get into the whole mysticalism stuff but I am kind of terminally materialist, I crave to be a magical witch but I can't convince myself any of that stuff is real. Like this is absolutely a good thing but I just can't quite slip off the deep end. I think its just because my experience with life is so wierd anyway. When I close my eyes I see very weird things and I lucid dream almost every night. That all not being real kind of taught me not to hope for things, not to pine for things and just sit daydreaming all the time, but to actually do them. And that also gives me the inspiration for writing (and hopefully like making games or animation if I can ever get skilled enough to do that).

Sorry for blogpoasting >.<

>>4260
Most Crowleyites see themselves as materialist, as they're very results oriented. Personally i would say those things are absolutely real in the marxian sense, because they affect yourself directly, others indirectly and ultimately material reality without requiring the same type of attention as non-magickal practice. The only thing not to do is adopt a magical worldview, using something you made yourself believe for a ritual to reason about material reality. That advice may ring kind of hollow though, as i've only had mild successes with drafting sigils, inducing trances and kind of making myself feel better while on-off practicing for some years :-)

>>4258
You dont pass because you are an idealist.

>>4251
>let's be real. this conversation wouldn't happen without transphobia.
Even in a perfectly tolerant world I would still have crippling dysphoria from not passing.

>>4252
Just because you enjoyed them doesn’t mean I will. I don’t have bottom dysphoria and don’t see what’s cute about having a micro penis. This post just makes me even more terrified of taking estrogen

I’m already 18 so it’s probably too late for me. I’ll never be able to bring mysef to take estrogen before I’m 21 so I’m fucked. I’ll never be able to be a woman, I’ll be stuck as a disgusting man until I kill myself
>>4253
If I can’t pass then what’s even the point in transitioning. I should just give up if everyone is gonna see me as a man anyways

>>4149
>I have an extreme phobia of needles. It’s genuinely ruining my life. I know that there’s other forms of hrt that aren’t injections, but either way I would still need to use a needle on myself to do blood tests.
WTF, why would you ever do a blood test on yourself? How is that even possible? And if it helps, you can look away and close your eyes while it's being done.
>And then there’s the effects hrt has on the genitals. I would love every effect of hrt if it wasn’t for the effects it has on genitalia. I know using it will prevent atrophy, but it still won’t prevent my balls from shriveling up and the dck from shrinking. I don’t have bottom dysphoria and my genitals are one of the few parts of my body that I don’t actively hate.
If you just want to avoid possible ED, sildenafil and tadalafil are options. There's also testosterone cream for maintaining size ig.
>And lastly, I’m afraid I’ll miss out on the experiwnce of being a gay guy. I’ve never been in a relationship as a man, but mlm relationships seem to be much more loving and deeper than straight relationships are. I’m scared I’ll never experience true love with a straight man if I transitioned to being a woman. (Especially since many men who want to date trans women are just chasers)
That sucks. I've heard of straight trans women who don't have a lot of luck with straight men. You'll have to make the jump, though, I guess.

>>4265
Doesn’t all diyers do blood tests on themselves and then send it to a lab? That’s how I assumed it worked

Size is my main concern. If I could just find some actual confirmation that testosterone cream would maintain the size then I would start doing estrogen in a heartbeat. But I’m constantly hearing conflicting things about t cream

I already have no luck with men at all, so if my luck gets even worse when I transition then I’m probably never gonna be able to find love

>>4284
I've never done a blood test since it is like a hundred pounds

Do not do it
Do not fall for big pharma propaganda

>>4159
>>4160
Cringe is downstream of narcissism because cringe is the feeling of disgust when your self-image is threatened. People who relate to the world through the narcissistic mode of self-image are much more susceptible to feeling the 'cringe' and obsessing over their self-image so as to not evoke that feeling. The link between self-image and narcissism is one of the most basic concepts in psychoanalysis.

>>4204
Everyone has a self-image and the instinct to preserve it. I guess everybody must be a narcissist then lmao.

Just because self-image is a big part of narcissism doesnt mean that the concept of self-image is inherently linked to narcissism. You clearly get all of your psychology info from social media.

>>4209
Yes, Lacan did claim all Ego is Narcissism.

>>4210
>Lacan said it so its a fact!
Lacan isn't the king of psychology. Most of the shit he said has been discredited and criticized by many

>>4209
Everyone is capable of narcisstic relation, and to some extent everyone is capable of going beyond it too. You are treating narcissist like it's an insult rather than a fact of human psychology.

>>3836
I don't say it is a universal fact of life, but it can happen, and being wary is Okay, specially if the bisexual male has some internalized homophobia.

>Straight men cheat all the time yet I never see anyone talking about how they fear straight men because of that.
It's because of homophobia, they find it disgusting/emasculating/dirty that his man has had sex with other men.

>The same thing can be said for gay men, just instead of leaving for a woman they leave for another man.
Again, most of them would worry about him leaving them for a woman because she is a woman and she can bring him a family, because he feels his playing years have ended and now he has to "settle down". It is not simply about cheating.

And I guess you are right about the statistics pic I posted.

>>3837
If you are gonna be wary of bi men, then you should be wary of all potential partners too. Anyone could cheat on you or leave you for another. Although I agree you shouldnt date a bi man if they have internalized homophobia.

In general im not really sure where your going with this. It seems like you are trying to justify biphobia, yet you condone women being biphobic since it stems from homophobia? Are you trying to say that biphobia is okay only if your a gay man?

>>3838

Why can't you understand that it isn't a fear to be cheated on for anyone but for being left for a WOMAN because she is a WOMAN who can give him a HETEROsexual relationship and a BIO FAMILY. That isn't possible with a homo (only with extremely high levels of autohomophobia).

>Are you trying to say that biphobia is okay only if your a gay man?
Not at all, for example, denying the existence of bisexuality would not be okay, or thinking they are more prone to cheat, or not wanting to have sex with him if he has touched a vagina (the legendary extremely misogynistic gays radfems like to talk about). Not all biphobia is made the same. A woman asking for STI status of a bisexual man but not of a hetersexual man would be okay too (only if he has had sex with men) (idk if you would consider this biphobia).

>>3824
Biphobia stems from the fact that bisexuality fucks with the linear way of thinking that homos and heteros impose on the world. Homosexuals are monsters who like sameness. Heterosexuals have an obsession with otherness. The obsession with sameness is why homosexuals tend to be narcissistic and morally questionable. Morality is about ethically coming to terms with an 'other,' with someone who is not like yourself. Homos fail at this. Its why they are hostile, misogynistic, and extremely self-centered. Since people organize their entire lives around being straight or gay, then someone who fits neither calls into question the truthfulness of the entire system. Homosexuality and heterosexuality are founded on a negation of bisexuality. And bisexuality can only be tolerated when its a niche thing a minority of weird people do rather than, as history and Freud show, has been the dominant mode of sexual expression throughout most human civilizations. This is the real source of biphobia.

>In ancient greece it seemed like bisexuality was the norm, as being straight or being gay werent concepts yet,
This seems to have been the case in most pre-modern pre-capitalist cultures. In less developed societies like Afghanistan its still common. Something seems to have happened which destroyed it. An ideal society should abolish these kinds of distinctions. In an ideal world, there would be no gay, straight, bi or other buzzwords that chop up society and make us fight.

>>3827
>Honestly it would be so hurtful to be with a man who then lefts me because I am fundamentally not enough for him.
How is this different from any other relationship? People break up for reasons all the time. Since I want children and a family (not just an inverted clone of a hetero family, but an actual one) and a gay male can never give me this, then such a long term relationship is impossible. The problem here is thinking in bourgeois terms that all relationships must lead to a happy mommy-daddy-me nuclear family. In other times and in other cultures, you could be happily married and still love someone else or love someone and its not connected to an idea of marriage. Western culture is fixated on monogamy and the nuclear family, butPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>3217
Gays are perverts who exploit men’s bodies and turn them into spiritual women. Heteros are perverts who fetishize women and turn them into cattle. They are both offshoots of commodity capitalism caused by mental abuse.

>>3596
I think in reality people aren’t supposed to be attracted to genders but specific people. I don’t like women. I like my gf who just happens to be a woman. We get mentally confused and mix up liking a person with a gender. A gender is literally a mental concept. Nobody fucks abstractions.

>go on Grindr for the first time in a decade
>see a bunch if straight white women claiming to be some vague flavour of "queer"
Where's the white woman extinction button when you need it?

Does anyone have any guide or tips to get rid of the fagcent?
Last year one guy asked whether I was gay and while this hasn't caused me any problem I would like to be able not to broadcast my sexuality, for security (even though I live in a very tolerant place) and to get along better with straight guys once I enter the workforce.

>>3963
Came out at 12 so I assume I haven't wore "closetcore" and I think we gave some of my older clothes to my cousin.

>>4199
Doesn't grindr have a gender (there shouldn't be non-men there but whatever) filter? Or did they make that a paid feature too? If that's the case you could use GrindrPlus, if that woman labbeled herself as a man you could use the height filter.

>>4205
I mean obviously its easy enough to avoid such people. I'm just baffled by why AFAB people other than transmascs would be on there in the first place.

>>4205
>>4205
>to get along better with straight guys
Imagine crawling and begging for the acceptance of these vermin
They'll hate you and want to beat you/kill you as soon as they find out you're gay no matter how masc you perform

>>4233
>how do i not give bosses some bullshit justification to fire me or w/e
<uhhhhhhhh assimilationist much??????
not everyone is a sheltered petit bourgeois who never leaves their bedroom and plenty of queers dislike the "fagcent" themselves

>>4229
here we go, it was on my e-reader

>>4228
what's even the point of living if i cannot be perfectly beautiful

>>4217
you should not compare yourself to cartoons

>>4228
>>4232
It's not just anime though, The trans characters in live action media are always far more prettier than ill ever be. And those are played by real people.
>>4231
Real
>>4230
thanks

>>4234
>live action media
the amount of editing that goes into that stuff makes it pretty much just a cheap way of doing a cartoon

>>4174
1 i'll be doing injections
2 i'll be reminded of how much trans people hate me every time i do them

>>4146
That is more dihydrotestosterone. You can block that separately. Testosterone would have to be unnaturally high to do that by itself.

>>4173
If it means anything to you anon, I'm a trans woman who does have people who stopped HRT and went back to being cis and/or going back to he/they pronouns.

If your comrades or friends are going to abandon you because you're exploring who you are, and only supported you for being trans- and not a human being first and foremost- then they were never your comrades to begin with.

So long as you fight the good fight, support LGBTQ rights, and aid in our stuggle, you'll be fine.

>>4175
why is it that you believe transgender people hate you

gender as a concept really got people thinking like this. Burn the whole fucking concept at the stake.

I'm not watching a 5 hour video about something boring that barely anyone cares about. Also take your ads elsewhere.

Stupid

It's pretty good but way too long, I've been watching it chapter-by-chapter for weeks and there's still more than a hour left.

I put this on whilst I was at work, and was listening to it a few weeks back in my earbuds - This is… Probably some of the best and most thorough vid I've seen in a long while pertaining to Transphobia and the systemic problems of it.

Great fuckin' vid, bud.

>>3567
>>4165
Post chin

>>3768
So let me get this straight, you:
>like the idea of love
and
>feel jealous of others' relationships

but you also
>get drained rapidly by social interaction
and
>never liked anyone romantically

Maybe you enjoy thinking and fantasizing more about a romantic relation than actually being in one? Like some people might fantasize about fighting or being an explorer than actually going through the risks and hardship those would entail. No offense intended, you're far from the only person who (might) do this.

>>3814
OP here. It's better now, I don't think about her nearly as much. If I could go back and do it better, sure. But I didn't lose much special.
Mind I ask your story anon?

>>3455
Force yourself to have sex with someone else. I've been through this recently and it's as disgustingly simple as that. The body leads and the heart follows

>>3768
Romance as a special category of socializing is bullshit and worthless. The only quintessentially romantic thing is enmeshment and mutual idealization. These are harmful. Ask yourself if you enjoy/are relaxed in their presence, and if you have good sexual chemistry (literally chemistry, like u enjoy how they smell and taste and all that). If these are both yes, you've found a winner. They check the fundamental boxes. Everything else is negotiations.

I say negotiations because including someone in your life means re-arranging your life a little to make space for them.

Based on your situation there are certain considerations. There are essentially 4 positions. 1: you both have full lives, but you need someone to fuck. This relationship is mainly about sexual chemistry and basic trust. You don't need to love who they are as a person or match them in everything. Your lives intersect minimally, where necessary. You may grow to love them or share more in common with them over time but that isn't necessary. 2 and 3: one of you has a life and the other is kind of a loser. The one with a life gatekeeps and focuses on not losing their center (i.e. not losing what makes them valuable in the first place, which is their self-completeness), and the other one chases and attempts to demonstrate value while weaseling into the other's life more and more. Figure out which one you are and act accordingly. 4: you both have no life. This is perfect for Romance. Success in this configuration requires similar interests, experiences, personalities, etc. Maybe triggering each other's childhood wounds and broken sense of what love is. You are each other's soulmates, it is fated love, etc. You both have nothing else going on, so you can make each other your whole world.

If you're politically active that basically already puts you in the "has a life" category so you should look for either someone who minimally enters your life, or someone who totally worships you, spends money on you, makes you laugh, makes you orgasm, generally makes your life easier and more fun (while not gumming up the works and makingPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I found myself in a relationship that started strong only for it to go straight to shit after 3 years. It started after we went a full year with no sex it was then that he revealed that he wasn't gay but asexual the entire time, now I had my suspicions since he didnt like any anal or oral but I let it slide since I was a virgin when we met and was naive, when the fighting stopped after that bombshell we broke up only for covid to hit a week later and for him to loose his job.
Now I don't work as I'm doctor diagnosed autistic and he said that I was never to look for work since he wanted to take care of me. This started an extremely fucked situation since now with my limited tismbux I had to help him until he found work and since the apartment was in my name so if he didn't have any money left he would be homeless (I can't cover his food expenses or phone bill) but even though I was seething with hate over being lied too I didn't want to betray my morals and just throw him into the capitalist death machine so I helped him and now he has a job he likes and we are friends and he takes care of me as we got over our differences since.
Now I'm still a socially retarded mess but stable in life, so in a few months time after that I ended up finding someone else but now it's long distance….but when he came up here to Canada all the way from the states to pound my small pale emo "these scars are proof I'm alive" snow bunny butt in the first time in my life while I wore a kitty maid outfit it was the best time in my life and even though I now only get sex once a year and only see him in person once a year I'm still happy and my ex turned friend enjoys the new dynamic since he can take care of me and himself money wise and he and I like our friendship more though he wants the three of us living together that I find a little weird. The distance sucks and I do get depressed because of it but I can't see myself ever being disloyal it's not in my blood I suppose.
I hope one day he does move up here. Relationships are chaotic…and I guess it's really never known where one can end up.

>>4049
Why would you get angry at him for being asexual though? Especially when he was willing to do sex acts with you. Seems like a weird thing to break up with someone about.

>>3812
i want you to groom me
i want you to make me your mess