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Why can’t I relate to other trans people? I just can’t relate to the level of comfort and pride and self-love many of them have. It genuinely seems like so many of them don’t have the part of the brain that makes them cringe. They’re just so unfiltered and unapologetic, I just can’t relate at all, I constantly feel like a gross disgusting excuse for a woman and feel scared interacting with the world as one. I don’t know why I cling so strongly onto this meekness, maybe it’s misogyny, I just associate being boisterous and loud with being masculine. I can’t relate to how willing they are to make cringy niche trans memes to their cis friends. I just am so anxious to discuss transness in any open forum where I know cis people might see it. I admit I still have this kind of backwards view that being trans is something shameful and it would be better to stealth if possible. Idk what to do, I want this level of comraderie other trans people have but being in trans spaces, especially trans women spaces just makes me cringe, it either feels like it’s full of very bro-ish sorts of trans women who are unapologetically masculine, or trans women who feel sort of overly preformatively feminine. I genuinely just can’t relate to most of trans culture right now.
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>>4159
>>4160
Cringe is downstream of narcissism because cringe is the feeling of disgust when your self-image is threatened. People who relate to the world through the narcissistic mode of self-image are much more susceptible to feeling the 'cringe' and obsessing over their self-image so as to not evoke that feeling. The link between self-image and narcissism is one of the most basic concepts in psychoanalysis.

>>4204
Everyone has a self-image and the instinct to preserve it. I guess everybody must be a narcissist then lmao.

Just because self-image is a big part of narcissism doesnt mean that the concept of self-image is inherently linked to narcissism. You clearly get all of your psychology info from social media.

>>4209
Yes, Lacan did claim all Ego is Narcissism.

>>4210
>Lacan said it so its a fact!
Lacan isn't the king of psychology. Most of the shit he said has been discredited and criticized by many

>>4209
Everyone is capable of narcisstic relation, and to some extent everyone is capable of going beyond it too. You are treating narcissist like it's an insult rather than a fact of human psychology.



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as subject suggests, i don't want to transition anymore. i'm a week away from getting a proscription and yet i don't want to take estrogen anymore. i've discovered that i have above average testosterone too. i just don't want to let go, i want to hang on until I get whipped into the dirt. someone please kill me.
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>>4174
1 i'll be doing injections
2 i'll be reminded of how much trans people hate me every time i do them

>>4146
That is more dihydrotestosterone. You can block that separately. Testosterone would have to be unnaturally high to do that by itself.

>>4173
If it means anything to you anon, I'm a trans woman who does have people who stopped HRT and went back to being cis and/or going back to he/they pronouns.

If your comrades or friends are going to abandon you because you're exploring who you are, and only supported you for being trans- and not a human being first and foremost- then they were never your comrades to begin with.

So long as you fight the good fight, support LGBTQ rights, and aid in our stuggle, you'll be fine.

>>4175
why is it that you believe transgender people hate you

gender as a concept really got people thinking like this. Burn the whole fucking concept at the stake.



 

>what happens when you dig beneath the surface? a 2 year long, crippling obsession to find answers
One man's deep dive into the history of transmedicalism and academic transphobia.

Spoiler alert and trigger warning: The history is full of abuse, but the video itself will tell you when.
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I'm not watching a 5 hour video about something boring that barely anyone cares about. Also take your ads elsewhere.

Stupid

It's pretty good but way too long, I've been watching it chapter-by-chapter for weeks and there's still more than a hour left.

I put this on whilst I was at work, and was listening to it a few weeks back in my earbuds - This is… Probably some of the best and most thorough vid I've seen in a long while pertaining to Transphobia and the systemic problems of it.

Great fuckin' vid, bud.

>>3567
>>4165
Post chin



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hypothetically speaking, if an athletic-thin young man had a face like this -tcof rough magick cof cof- :Would he get massive attention from young women, rich girls, etc?
Would he get locally famous\get stans even if he doesn't use any social media?

How will anybody know you exist without social media?



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For years, ive been questioning my gender and my "egg" still hasnt cracked. Im constantly switching between wanting to become a girl, and just wanting to be a femboy. No matter how much time i spend thinking about it, I still cant figure out which I want to be.

I honestly don't know what to do. I hate gender so much, why does it have to be confusing. I dont think ill ever figure out if im truly trans or not at this rate, and every second I wait my body permanently masculinizes more.
It feels so hopeless
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Just aim for the interpolation of the two. Gender ain't boxes.

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>>4137
I want to wear feminine clothes in public too, but I want to do it because I'm out with my boyfriend.
cunt.

>>4138
Gender kinda are boxes though, atleast society treats it like such. Even most of the queer community treats it as such. If I aimed to be both a femboy and a transgirl, then I wouldnt be welcomed in transfem spaces for being a femboy, but I also wouldnt be welcomed in femboy spaces for being a transgirl. I wouldnt fit in anywhere. So im unfortunately forced to choose one.

>>4137
>all boys are masculine! Femboys dont exist
You sound dumb

>>4140
>If I aimed to be both a femboy and a transgirl, then I wouldnt be welcomed in transfem spaces for being a femboy, but I also wouldnt be welcomed in femboy spaces for being a transgirl. I wouldnt fit in anywhere. So im unfortunately forced to choose one.
Sounds like a twitter thing. I've seen people straddle / mix both all the time.
Solution is find healthier spaces, rather than seek conditional acceptance in spaces that require you shatter yourself to fit in. I suggest fedi and the personal websites scene.

>>4141
It seems like almost every community online requires me to shatter myself to fit in. I actually used to be apart of the personal website seen, but its not really a community since theres no way to interact with other people. I havent tried fediverse though



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so i'm in a pretty good relationship with a transwoman. she's really sweet and has been amazingly supportive to me she's also a little asocial and insecure about herself but she wants to get out there and come out of her shell a lot more and socialize more as a woman i try my best a lot of times to get her out more and be a good boyfriend but i sometimes feel like i'm out of touch in some sorta way. am i overthinking it? is there a method to being a good supportive boyfriend with a trans person or is it more or less the same?

>>3571
Just be a nice and kind person. She might have autism and need to be taught social cues. Be patient

trans girl here. my only tip is that if she is feeling dysphoric, try and remind her that you see her as a woman and that she shouldnt let the feeling take over how she feels about herself, as hard as it is

its 11 am so excuse me if im just saying nonsense



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Let me explain to you which is something I apply on my daily life: hetmoids are literally over 90% hateful violent subhumans who want us gone (either dead or forcefully repressed), treating this particular demographic like vermin is the best thing we can apply to our daily lives. Show kindness and empathy only to women and queers. However these subhumans are violent by their very nature and will always look for excuses to assault you so adopt a passive-aggressive stance against them. Let me give some examples:

Some hetmoid tries to start conversation with you? Go monossilabic with a harsh tone, make them understand how unpleasant and unwelcome their presence is to you until they fuck off, while engaging and being kind with queers and women.
Hetmoid delivery, waiter, cashier? Don't thank it, don't engage with it and NEVER tip
Hetmoid hobo? Ignore it completely and tell it to get a job if it harasses you
ALWAYS look for any excuse to fuck over an hetmoid at school or work, see them doing something wrong? Breaking rules? Don't hesitate for a sec to report them


In short, be harsh, abrasive and apathetic to these rats, don't engage with them, don't speak to them unless strictly necessary, NEVER compliment them for anything, NEVER help them, but don't make it too obvious, understand they're violent creatures and will look for any excuse to assault and try to murder you. Bonus point if you act the completely opposite with women and queer men near them

Show kindness and solidarity only to our own and Women who are mostly allies regardless of orientation.(USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST)
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>>4156
Is this supposed to convince me to start hating hetmoids, because I actually need that man carnally.

>>4051
you literally can't tell who is hetmoid at a glance. even the most hetmoid seeming married guys with family might secretly be bisexual, asexual, homosexual, trans, etc.

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>>4051
>these people ARE the violent silent majority trying to repress you
<so constantly taunt and harass them
obvious fedpost couldn't be more obvious

>>4124
>borderline personality disorder people doing negative dialectics
please explain what this means

Does this faggot post anything else besides "Cishetmoids… LE BAD"?



 

I'll turn 30 next year and never actually dated anyone, and it's been like 2 3 years since I had a proper sexual encounter

I'll never lnow true love and probably never even have sex again
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>>3829
>>3847
Op here. I just wanted a looksmatch boyfriend from my area

>>3850
Where do you live?

>>3889
Brazil ☠️

>>3777
For what it's worth, as a dude in the deep south I had a lot of luck using an app for a community which has a lot of queer members (furry) which was more meetup focused. Found a couple of friends and within the first month met a guy I've now been in a committed relationship with for almost two years. I think you need to find community in general. Romance shouldn't even be a primary motivator at this point. Finding real life friends who can relate to you about your sexuality is an emergency situation for you. Isolation is damaging you.

>>4037
The only friend I had abandoned me
In fact I was the one constantly spamming his DC with messages left and right then he started talking less and less and I got the message, I just stopped texting him and he hasn't said anything for 2 weeks, it's time to let go
It is really fucking sad and devastating. We were friends since we were 12



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Ive always wished I was a girl, and I have been knowledgable that im most likely trans for awhile now. The problem is that I cant just "become" a girl.

Of course i know theres hrt, but that doesnt account for my brain. My brain still thinks of myself as a man. I still act like a man. Im still male socialized. How do I become a girl mentally?
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>>3856
OP here, I'm not her so kindly fuck off

Male socialization is definitely hard to overcome, but definitely not impossible, you need to surround yourself with a bunch of moderately woke cis women and theyfabs who are accepting enough to consider you a woman but harsh enough to use social conditioning tactics to get you to adopt female behavior. It’s tough, but I believe in you OP!

>>3869
How am I gonna find a group like that? I dont even know how to surrond myself with people. Social groups and socializing in general feels extremely alien to me

>>3796
>the internal identity can be fundamental without being essential
There is no such thing as internal identity. Identities don’t exist.

>children ie girls/boys are basically genderless

That’s just absurd.

People learn their genders, you are right about that. But I don’t think people really understand how deep learned behavior is when it’s built up through habit, from the beginning of life, and practiced for years.

Your also assuming that there is something there already upon which external societal influences impose gender upon. Your personality was already interpolated from the start, even the desire to be trans is a product of interaction with external influences not some inner desire. If you grew up with sheep herders in Mongolia, you’d probably never even think of being trans.

>>3823
>I don’t have any fashion sense at all
Is this why trans girls dress slutty? They can’t get girl dress so they just lay into the most extreme feminine depictions they see on TV?

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>>3932
>They can’t get girl dress so they just lay into the most extreme feminine depictions they see on TV?
Maybe, I don't really know what most other trans women typically dress like though since I dont know any others irl. But I would probably wear something a bit sltty if it werent for the fact that my body isnt good-looking enough to pull it off. But thanks for the advice to my other post



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>lift weights
>do cardio
>eat meat
>testosterone increasing
<still can't remove away my desire to be buttfucked by a bigdickgirl and jizzed inside of
those /fit/bastards lied to me. becoming manlier did not remove any bottom ideas within me brain
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>>2133
lucky you

its the woke mind virus inside you

More horomones = more libido

>>3987
>>testosterone increasing
>libido increasing
OP's situation's that simple. Wonder if he already met up a bigdickgirl, it's been 4 months.

>>1291
>still can't remove away my desire to be buttfucked by a bigdickgirl and jizzed inside of
Believe you me comrade there's nothing to ashamed.
some of us muscle mommies like to be jizzed inside ourselves



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