/lgbt/ - LGBT

I have no desire to claim or identify with 'womanhood' so much as i absolutely reject 'manhood'. i do like presenting femme, i had an orchiectomy; but i feel like i have a lot of trouble relating to mainstream trans politics being so invested in being 'valid' or belonging to some specific identity, label, or class. I get frustrated when well-meaning allies lean really hard on 'oh but you are a girl', or go out of their way to correct other people about my pronouns/gender. Frankly i think it's a detriment to things like reproductive healthcare rights and just general sexism and gender liberation to go all in on 'trans women are women!'; i'm not saying they're /not/ but, there are differences of experience and there's a lot of nuance and edge-case discourse to be had.

idunno just curious if anybody relates to gender similarly.

Hello Lesbian Stalinists, Gay Trotskyists, Trans-Anarchists and Bi-Maoists, I hope you're doing well !
I wanted to know what is your opinion on the so-called 'Queen of Breadtube' KKKontraPointSS?

It feels like there are two realities for trans people. Some people just pass effortlessly somehow, and then other people can't pass no matter how they try unless it is with a very specific camera angle and lighting.

What do you think? Does anyone here pass? Not saying you have to pass to be properly trans but also I think people saying they are fine with not passing are just coping. It just feels so frustrating seeing these people who just pass effortlessly and then I'm spending years to get nowhere with voice training and my hands are too shaky to do makeup.

Why can’t I relate to other trans people? I just can’t relate to the level of comfort and pride and self-love many of them have. It genuinely seems like so many of them don’t have the part of the brain that makes them cringe. They’re just so unfiltered and unapologetic, I just can’t relate at all, I constantly feel like a gross disgusting excuse for a woman and feel scared interacting with the world as one. I don’t know why I cling so strongly onto this meekness, maybe it’s misogyny, I just associate being boisterous and loud with being masculine. I can’t relate to how willing they are to make cringy niche trans memes to their cis friends. I just am so anxious to discuss transness in any open forum where I know cis people might see it. I admit I still have this kind of backwards view that being trans is something shameful and it would be better to stealth if possible. Idk what to do, I want this level of comraderie other trans people have but being in trans spaces, especially trans women spaces just makes me cringe, it either feels like it’s full of very bro-ish sorts of trans women who are unapologetically masculine, or trans women who feel sort of overly preformatively feminine. I genuinely just can’t relate to most of trans culture right now.

as subject suggests, i don't want to transition anymore. i'm a week away from getting a proscription and yet i don't want to take estrogen anymore. i've discovered that i have above average testosterone too. i just don't want to let go, i want to hang on until I get whipped into the dirt. someone please kill me.

>what happens when you dig beneath the surface? a 2 year long, crippling obsession to find answers
One man's deep dive into the history of transmedicalism and academic transphobia.

Spoiler alert and trigger warning: The history is full of abuse, but the video itself will tell you when.

hypothetically speaking, if an athletic-thin young man had a face like this -tcof rough magick cof cof- :Would he get massive attention from young women, rich girls, etc?
Would he get locally famous\get stans even if he doesn't use any social media?

For years, ive been questioning my gender and my "egg" still hasnt cracked. Im constantly switching between wanting to become a girl, and just wanting to be a femboy. No matter how much time i spend thinking about it, I still cant figure out which I want to be.

I honestly don't know what to do. I hate gender so much, why does it have to be confusing. I dont think ill ever figure out if im truly trans or not at this rate, and every second I wait my body permanently masculinizes more.
It feels so hopeless

Why do people hate pansexuals? Like, im not bi, but ive met some men i would be happy dateing but most disgust me. Same thing for women. Ive also dated trans folks but i never dated anyone JUST for their gender or gender identity, it seems like meaningless peacokcing behavior to me. I like who i like, regardless of what their identify is or anything else. What i dont understand is the hate toward the term, apart from the normal hate you get from being openly queer. Im a closeted pan sexual and i only really talk about this stuff with my partners, who also are almost always pan.

thoughts?

so i'm in a pretty good relationship with a transwoman. she's really sweet and has been amazingly supportive to me she's also a little asocial and insecure about herself but she wants to get out there and come out of her shell a lot more and socialize more as a woman i try my best a lot of times to get her out more and be a good boyfriend but i sometimes feel like i'm out of touch in some sorta way. am i overthinking it? is there a method to being a good supportive boyfriend with a trans person or is it more or less the same?