/lgbt/ - LGBT

im bi with a heavy preference towards women but i wouldnt call myself butch i identify more with masc
i also have a stupid fucked up gender
anyways i want tips on how to look or feel more masc that dont involve hair(i alreary have shorter hair) or clothing style(i already wear hoodies all the time bevause of dysphoria)

How do I cope with the fact that i'm probably genderfluid?

For years now ive constantly been conflicted with my gender, wanting to be a girl but also wanting to just be a femboy. Ive been told by many that im likely some type of non-binary, but I dont want to be. I just either want to be either a normal trans girl or a femboy, but if I identify as genderfluid then I fear that people wont see me as a real transgirl or as a real femboy, so it would be like I just dont get to be either.

God, whats wrong with me? Why couldnt I have just been born as a normal gender-binary-fitting person? I dont want to be genderfluid.

I quite enjoy kink and queer erotica but I don't think it's inherently revolutionary or anything. I do really like the weird fucked up kinky horror shit and I think there are quite a few gems but there's still a lot of trash. I think in general the media reflects broader cultural biases more than anything else.

https://hidwehproject.nekoweb.org/pages/blog/posts/2025-10-04-On-The-Transgender-Question.html

theme: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GTojZzKi9V8

im just leaving this here. some of the stuff written here might be useful for some of you

how do I brainwash myself into becoming trans
I hate being a moid

The body was too fat and ugly.

The body was too fat and ugly.

The body was too fat and ugly.

The body was too fat and ugly.

My parents thought sending me to conversion therapy would make me not trans - instead it just left me with BPD which only makes me hotter to other trans women. This is a classic case of the literary device called "irony".

There are some things I don't understand about transphobes:

Why is it that when a man displays an attitude or behavior that isn't typical of his sex/gender, he's immediately treated as an incomplete man or a sissy, but when it comes to trans women, they immediately say he's a man, a complete man trying to deceive society? I mean, either do you believe that one can lose their status as a man or a woman, or do you believe that biology is absolutely binary? You can't believe in both (I mean, a eunuch should be as masculine as The Rock, but these idiots wouldn't see it that way).
Another thing I've been thinking about is this:
On the one hand, they tell a trans person that they will never be the sex they were born with, mainly because of their genes, but on the other hand, they don't care about those same genes when it comes to unnatural body modifications, like steroids, breast implants, etc. I mean, if a trans person isn't a man, then I, who am bald for example, and get a hair transplant, would cease to be bald phenotypically but not genetically. The funny thing is, if I went to a meeting of bald people, they'd kick me out even though I'm genetically bald. Unless you're a Lamarckian, the argument doesn't hold water.

By the way, many TERFs say that trans women invalidate women's suffering. This reminds me of when deaf people say that those who use hearing aids invalidate their suffering. And let's not even talk about conservatives who claim to protect children from mutilation but remain silent when discussing circumcision. KEEEK
pd. sorry the syntax im not anglo

i feel like i've been denied everything the moment i was born
my father was the least favorite of his known (and unknown) brothers, that much he says.
my family always treated us like others,

growing up with FARC stories and named after a communist hero i always wanted to be a soldier.

going through my teenage years i tried so hard to fit in a mold that wasn't made for me, i got to associate femininity with bourgeois behaviour due to me getting bullied out of my own feminity

i used to stare at quinceañera dresses daydreaming of my own quinceañera party

i wanted to be a mother, to be a woman, to be a soldier, everything i've ever wanted has always been denied to me.

and then my mother who kept stopping me from joining military school kicks me out for wearing a skirt.

i see my cousins who my grandfather loved more achieving all of this and the only thing i have left for me is violence, all i have is the dream of one day taking my enemy's life
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i finally came out to a member of my family, my sister whom ive been slightly closer with than everyone else. my family are all conservative christian trump supporters including my sister but she seems like she's not as brainwashed as the rest of them. a few days before thanksgiving i told my sister i'm queer and i've had sex with guys before and i didn't really know what to expect, i figured it could go either way - she could either react with shock and horror and shun me forever, or she could be supportive and accepting about it.

at first it seemed like the second thing happened, she was surprisingly very nice and supportive and told me she loved me and was totally okay with it and she promised not to tell anyone else in the family. then comes thanksgiving and nobody in my family calls me or wants to talk to me at all, not one of them. days pass and i still haven't heard from anyone in my family, they always call me or at least text me on the holidays but now nothing. finally i get suspicious and i text my sister and just ask "hey is mom ok, she hasn't been talking to me much" and i see the "user is typing" notification for a very long time, then it disappears and comes back, then again, several rewrites before she finally responds saying my mom was just busy and gives me this list of excuses and then my mom suddenly calls my phone minutes later and she tells me the same list of excuses almost word for word, and then she starts demanding to know why i'm asking my sister about her (even though she called me). finally i ask her to just be straight with me and she says "i am being straight, i am being VERY straight." in a very snotty tone and i finally just say "fuck it" and tell her exactly what i told my sister and she seems not surprised or shocked, she just immediately starts grilling me demanding to know the names of the men that i've slept with in the past and if they were anyone she knows, while simultaneously insisting that it's completely fine and she doesn't care if i'm queer.

one of the reasons i decided to come out was because a few years ago i heard from my mother that my eldest niece, my older brother's kid, came out to her parents and, at the behest of my mother, they told her that she was just confused and it was just a phase and told themselves that too and they never mentioned it again. i felt so bad for her and i see her now being depressed and alienated and going through the same issues i went through at her age and i wPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

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