>>1968I'll try to be charitable to op by sharing my perspective on the subject matter.
I call myself agender and I consider myself a gender abolitionist, I am tired of explaining reducing my gender identity to cis people to a mere she/her woman.
I hated masculinity enough to transition out of it but I simultaneously do not identify with a lot of aspects of femininity. for instance I present as a blob of gender, I lean fem but I work a stereotypically masculine physical job, I won't let go of my masculine or feminine interests and I am not afraid of my masculine upbringing.
I am a gender abolitionist because I think the expectations put upon women by our male dominated capitalist society are debilitating to our society, just as I believe the idealistic dude bro toxic masculinity are debilitating to our society.
I see people as a reflection of their personality more so than I put people in a box over the other.
I believe there is nothing wrong with identifying with femininity, some people may call you a petty bourgeois revisionist for upholding the gendered expectations of the capitalist but I believe in this fucked life you should be able to enjoy what makes you happy, I wish I was able to fully live out my gender identity in the ways you are but unfortunately I have to resort only being perceived correctly by my queer peers who are willing to listen.