I am posting this in the lgbt board because as a queer person I think a lot of these topics resonate much louder to a queer audience, who's likely given more thought to these ideas.
as some background, me and my girlfriend recently broke up over both being traumatized and her getting tired of my ever worsening situation.
in our current superstructure it would simply be discarded as a inherently codependent trauma relationship that could've never worked and under this understanding of the world the proposed solution is avoiding these relationships completely by simply getting over the trauma before dating.
now, my first question is, what does it even mean to get over trauma? some argue that the first steps are to engage in masking, similar to how someone would hide their neurodivergence. others suggest that getting over trauma is a matter of normalizing to oneself.
neither of these seems to be particularly effective, I understand that trauma cannot be undone but neither of these strategies seems to me like much more than internalizing and individualizing a systemic fault which feels contradictory and self destructive.
now, extending this at large I find myself disagreeing with the liberal capitalist perspective on mental health, I see it as one of my core values to be radically against eugenics and I find the idea of normality repulsive and unhelpful as it is often utilized to justify this line of thinking.
I understand that some deviations from our agreed normality are inherently harmful to others under our existing superstructure but I find it very difficult to justify a culture who glorifies the suppression of any behaviors that aren't helpful to the advancement of the capitalist system.
I have tried to adopt dialectical materialism to form a coherent opinion on what is the appropriate approach to many of these questions. it has helped with identifying contradictions within the status quo but I've been unable to find any reasonable uncontradictory answer to these questions, both within our existing superstructure and within a hypothetical utopian communist society.
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