How do I get over my hatred of masculine men? All throughout my school years I was relentlessly bullied by jocks and such because I wasnt into typical masculine things and because i was too emotional. Ive felt extreme resentment towards masculinity ever since.
The only men im able to be attracted too are other feminine boys like myself, aswell as older men. Meanwhile it seems like the vast majority of gays feel attraction almost exclusively to hyper-masculine men, and talk about their attraction like being attracted to masculinity is an inherent part of being gay. It has made me feel so isolated and made me feel invalidated in my sexuality.
Part of me feels like masculinity is inherently evil, I feel like it encourages meanness, arrogance, and cruelty by its design. Plus, seeing masculine guys constantly get praised while every other type of male never gets anywhere near as much love, it just makes me even angrier. My resentment is so deep-seated at this point that im not fully sure if I can even change it.
i kinda feel the same way i think dudebros are annoying and retarded and ive always felt contempt for aggressive and competitive morons who only act that way because deep down they just have a thirst for blood like animals. hypermasculine homosexuality really disgusts me because it's often expressed in this way. im not gay i only like femboys though. i often feel like a gay guy who had some wires crossed in the womb. im not pretty enough to be a softboy, and honestly i dont want to be, im comfortable with my reasonable level of masculinity. i dont want to be trans but i sometimes feel like i have a female oriented brain because i enjoy the company of women more often because they're less judgemental, appreciate art and aesthetics and music more, and usually more nuanced about things.
>Part of me feels like masculinity is inherently evil, I feel like it encourages meanness, arrogance, and cruelty by its design.
i think when it gets out of control, it certainly does. a healthy level of masculinity however encourages hard work, sacrifice for your loved ones, protection, education, ethical behavior, and positive morality, at least imo.
>Plus, seeing masculine guys constantly get praised while every other type of male never gets anywhere near as much love, it just makes me even angrier. My resentment is so deep-seated at this point that im not fully sure if I can even change it.
i think softboys get plenty of love, especially from girls. i understand though how other men often bully softboys because 1. softboys are threatening, and masculine dudes are actually afraid that women might like them more than traditionally masculine men, 2. because often men feel they have a duty to "mentor" other men even if they never asked for it. personally i like other guys who appear to be sensitive because they remind me of myself.
Honestly OP you just have to remember that to some men masculinity is a cage they willingly put themselves in. Don’t focus on what others think, act, or do. Comparison is the root of all evil. Some gays like masc, others like twinks and femboys. There is a person for every body type. Some don’t even care about body types.
Just focus on what you like and enjoy that for what it is, not for what others see.
As a trans woman, some like clocky girls while others do not. And thats okay.