/hobby/ - Hobby

So I had a massive social fail yesterday. I don't really want to get to the details because nobody here cares about my drama. I want to get to a feeling that probably unites some of us.
A lot of us are very into computers in a way nobody except us can understand, and along with that or because of that, we lost our social lives.
Me, I have very bad people skills. Unlike others, it isn't that I'm too scared to talk to others, in fact that sensation is extremely dull, only flares up talking to cute girls, like anyone else. So I don't have a block when it comes to just talking to people.
What I struggle with is the technical skills: how to read people effectively and respond to their emotions, keeping a conversation flowing and expanding, speaking technique (my speech has degraded somewhat to the point where I stutter, my voice sometimes cracks, and I never speak loud enough so should work on that), and moreover the holy grail is utilising social procedure to make a relationship ascend from acquaintanceship to a close friendship.

After yesterday I was wishing I was just normal, that I didn't trade my social life for elite computer skills because of how isolated it made me. I have a unique perspective on the world in so many ways, but I'm also alone in that, and sometimes it doesn't feel worth it. Relating with people over the wire isn't enough anymore, I want to relate with others face-to-face. But I don't want to become a defeated misanthrope just yet. I need to know if it's possible to have it both ways.
Surely other lains have been in similar situation, and maybe have tried and possibly succeeded in fixing it. I haven't searched elsewhere yet because I expect to find mostly snake oil peddled by normal people who don't understand my situation at all. What about you lain? Have you found books which gave you a glimpse at the mechanics of social interactions? how friendship is formed?

Also, is having social media a boon for making friends? At this point I'm considering downloading Instagram to appear more like I am a socially fitting person; I feel like being known as that guy who has no social media, though it makes me novel, probably works against me because it flags my outsider-ness to others, or makes me seem like I'm not approachable. But I want to be approachable. I don't expect to become a sociopath-tier socialite who can smooth talk anybody. I just want to be able to get on with people.

Let's all learn how hackPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

show me what would you take with you!
Mine would be something like:
*25L backpack (similar to pic related n° 2. It's what i have)
* 4 basic t-shirts(two gray, two black), 2 graphic t-shirts, one long-sleeve t-shirt
* two jeans, two cargo shorts
* 4 pairs of socks, 4 changes of underwear
* canvas sneakers
* the newest laptop i own, charger, mouse, laptop sleeve, wired earbuds, two usb HDD, portable charger
* Thermos, tea
* important documents like birth cert.
* Toothbrush
* facemasks, glasses
* pepper spray, folding knife
* sewing kit
* as much canned food as i can

I've realized as I've grown older my good youthful looks are fading. Yet, I've noticed many of those who undergo MTF hormone therapy get to regain, or retain many features I like. I guess this has caused me to wonder would it be controversial for me to simply want hormone replacement, not for any gender-affirming reason, but simply for aesthetics, then which led to me realize, so many people in our society have altered themselves, celebrities with plastic surgery and hair transplants, people taking finestaride, steroids. Just kind of makes sense to me I want to screw with my body because I've always had a hacker mindset

I've been watching this show the last couple of weeks. it's pretty good, would recommend. great animation, lots of gif potential. post your rare mollies

How can I live in a cyberpunk lifestyle today? I mean, we still don't have body implanted tech and flying cars (lol), but I'm sure we can still manage to live like this as close as possible with the available technology today.

Besides the skills and clothing required for this lifestyle, what would you include in this package?

I would include: reducing the amount of data that the organizations and the government has on you, deleting accounts that has any kind of personal info about you; having a good VPN service would be good too, but I'm not sure about it, maybe a private VPN; customizing your phone to keep it simple and yet useful; hoarding a lot of data (just in case).

Also, I was thinking about some form of minimalism, but I'm not entirely sure how it'd be.

I've been told that the sysadmin job is the best one to be closer to the cyberpunk world, but so is being a NEET. You could get brouzouf from doing some freelance jobs on the internet, just enough to pay your bills and keep yourself fed. Owning a cheap small apartament on the center of the city would help too.

And that's everything I've came up so far. Everything related is welcome.

General for writing

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I have decided to try to research more about living independently despite being very dependent on my mother still in life.

For background, I am in the middle of my first year at college, and although I've grown to have a good distance from my relatives I still need them for some things. I would like to create a bigger gap between us, but I have no idea for what I need to research.

Since I live in the US, I have whored out the common government aid programs available (state insurance). Could any give advice for someone progressing to an independent lifestyle? Are there any government aid programs I should look into as a low income college student?

I also know I need a driver's license still, but the town I go to college in has a good public transportation infrastructure, so it's not the top of my priority right now.

I mainly spend money on food, but I am looking to gain / save more for some sudden medical bills that are coming up in the next few months.

where my linguistics nerds at…come out from your hiding spot and talk to me about pharyngeal consonants

/cars/

Anybody else in the bunker enjoy cars and motorsport? Discuss anything motoring related here.

To start I'll say I've spent the last few days doing the brakes on my own car, including new calipers. Fucking hard work on an old POS, nothing comes apart easily.

How many drugs have you used recreational/medicinally?

After listing them out, the numbers make lose all hope in society