>>3233ur honestly fucking cooked, it's not that it's "casuual and instinctive and vibes-based", it's shallow. What the fuck is "queer culture"? the habits and neurosis of a few traumatized baby boomers who got molested after being kicked out at 13, who go on to molested 13 year olds, who go on to grow up and be the 35 year old gays today that have suspicious relationships with suspiciously young people.
the entire point of "queer culture" is ultimately, if not "im not cis", entirely about sex and sexuality. clubs aren't a place to dance, you can dance anyhwere, they're a place to get laid. clubs were, for the most part, a more stopgapped version of bathhouses where prostitution was permitted.
i have no idea what lesbian culture is besides rampant hypocracy, neurosis, and the anger that i see as an outsider looking in.
the reality is that you are just a normal person, like everyone else. you have a weaker understanding of nonverbal communication, with probably some mental benefits here and there. you are surrounded by shallow people, and a shallow society that tries to beat you into believing you must be a shallow person too in order to have value. you will eventually pick out the few corn kernals amongst the shit thoughbeit, and find people who can see the world at least similar to how you do. the problem is finding them, which is partly going out, and mostly luck. good luck, you'll need it.