hi anons
been in a relationship for almost 2 years (longest relationship i've ever been in)
my partner has become increasingly more hateful and easily angered over the last year or so; on that same token they have also exhibited increasingly more manipulative behavior
my close friends and family agree i should take initiative and leave.
i keep getting sucked back in by the good days (which are, more often than not outnumbered by the bad ones)
anyone here been in the same position? am i just fucked?
3 posts omitted.>>718965Really need some concrete examples to give better advice but generally No, don't leave, if their personality is just getting rough around the edges it just means they're getting comfortable to show their true personality, you should try your best to overcome your and her problems by talking them out, leaving when things get tough isn't love neither is love sunshine and rainbows. If by anger you mean physically abusive then that is another story and by manipulative, financial manipulation, then you should definitely leave.
Every day you spend with someone you dont want to or cant be with long term, is a day less to find the right person.
by hateful and angry,you mean about topics they talk about,or about you and people you know,the first one would be a way to cope about things irritating them they didn't tell you,the second one is concerning for you.
the basic solution is telling them directly you think that of them(with exemples if you can,so they have a way to continue the conversation by adressing those),and if instead of acknowledging your feelings they just dismiss it,gets mad at you for telling them or thinking that in the first place,or try to gaslight you into thinking it's all in your head,then you fucking book it.
Don't just take abuse. Communicate more. Set boundaries. If she reacts to this in general by pouting and not reciprocating communication in any productive way and within a short period of time, like, under a week (if you share space quite often) move on from this person. It can get a lot worse and fast.
>>719962This.
Billions of people out there, a lot of them mature, interesting, socially capable and non-abusive.
Hopefully you already differentially diagnosed that this doesn't have anything to do with mood swings in relation to hormonal shifts caused by PMS. If it's simply to do with that then just give her more space during those periods.