>>150571>They weren't hookups.I knew them from uni or school. So I tried to not rush it. In the end I fucked it up before it could bone them
Oh I think I kinda get it now, but that still doesn't explain how you've been able to kiss them and get friendzoned 'after' that.
Look, putting your dick in a vagina is not the only satisfying way of having sex. What's usually regarded as "foreplay" and "not real sex" can be just as, if not more pleasurable to both partners, so, first off, stop focusing only on vaginal sex as a goal. Think about what they would like to do as well, if they are attracted to you.
Second, if what you 'really' want is sex and not love, stop trying to "not rush it" so much, and be more direct and clear about your intentions with them. I had a friend who I had a mutual crush on confess to me after the pandemic began, but by then it was too late, since I had already made my mind at that point, and didn't have the intention of pursuing him anymore (for certain reasons). Now I regret it because I really wanted to fuck him, but I didn't want to ruin things by going too fast and dooming a potential relationship to end too soon, and I'm sure he regrets not saying anything sooner, as well (despite having so many opportunities where I indirectly encouraged him to confess).
Want to fuck? Make it obvious from the start, like someone else said you gotta take certain risks, it's better to do that than to fool people into a platonic friendship.>>150596>>150590