i don't know if something like this happened to some of you (probably) but you kind of have the feeling you're an outlier. like people don't like you and you don't know why
for instance, i have a friend. we go out a lot together and people tend to like him more. the weird thing is: we are weirdos. we like the same music, art, humor and shit. but everyone likes him more (even at times he's more unhinged than me)
this doesn't only happen when we are out but like in events as well or gym. idk it seems weird. maybe something with me? my face or my ~vibes~, i really don't know but it seems everyone avoids me for some reason
so anyway, do you have this feeling as well? how so? is this about the tism?
[spoiler]offtopic: i was migrating from github to codeberg and they are down for maintenance when i was midway done :( gotta wait a while now to finish this[/spoiler]
10 posts and 2 image replies omitted.>>747451> he's regarded as arrogant when meeting new peopleArrogance suggests value, instinct is to respect it.
> im curious, is there something about an upbringing with mostly women that affects social interaction as a male?Feminine upbringings often teach to be overly nice and put others first. In extreme cases, they become people-pleasers without boundaries.
When you go down a busy street, how many faces do you look at?
And when you look at these faces, how often do you think words about the person?
And when you think words, how often are these actually resembling sentences?
(Something like "old" or "huh weird hat" does not count as a proper sentence here, I mean at least having subject, verb, object.)
And when your brain bothers making a full sentence about a person, how often is that not just something somewhat negative, but really hateful?
Now, try to relate that to the total number of people you walk by.
What are the odds that you remember a random face a week later?
Why would it be different for other people. In conclusion, who gives a shit. For any random encounter, it is extremely unlikely that you make a lasting impression, whether a positive or negative one.
>>747465>Arrogance suggests value, instinct is to respect ithe's regarded as such but he's chill, but that still work maybe?
>Feminine upbringings often teach to be overly nice and put others firstthat hit home somewhat
>>747490that's what im practicing. trying to not overthink abt bs that doesnt change my life in any meaningful way
It's because you are a coder. People hate our kind.
>>747490Anon, are you autistic? Because OP is obviously not talking about random people on the street.